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Shaina, on June 9, 2014 at 7:26 PM

Soooooo we are a year out from our wedding date and we still have not selected a bridal party...which in my head is just fine I think we have plenty of time but I have what I consider a HUGE PROBLEM!... My fiance has about 8 to 9 guys he wants has groomsmen, four of the guys are like his brothers...

My fiance has about 8 to 9 guys he wants has groomsmen, four of the guys are like his brothers and I would never expect them to not be asked, one is his bother and the rest I have no clue why he is wanting to ask them! I come from a huge family, I am one of 7 but because of my siblings ages there are only 3 of my sisters who will even be old enough to be a bridesmaid and only one of them is 21 I have like 3 really really close friends who I will prob ask, but other than that I don't want to ask people just to fill a number slot. I find myself searching for girls who I am some what close with or close with because they are married to my fiances best friends and we go out as a group a lot!

This has been such a depressing topic, I don't want a huge bridal party idk what to do

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Master July 2014
FutureMrsL · on June 11, 2014 at 7:34 PM
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We each have four on each side, and that's been plenty for me. Trying to get four girls to decide on a dress plus respond to e-mails and trying to have them coordinate things together has been a chore. They are wonderful overall, but it is still hard trying to organize all of them! Plus, the costs do add up! The bouts cost about $15 each and the bridesmaids' bouquets are about $75-90 each! Plus we are buying them all gifts, and I'm paying for their hair and hotel the night before the wedding. Plus the costs of the rehearsal dinner. I wouldn't NOT have these girls there, but I can't imagine trying to coordinate anymore of them. It's hard getting responses to e-mails with just four girls that I don't have how brides do it if they have like 10 bridesmaids. BTW, you don't need even sides, either, if FH wants to have more groomsmen.
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doeydo · on June 11, 2014 at 7:36 PM
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Ask your nearest and dearest. Do not just ask people so you can have the same number as your FI. Also, remember that more people in your bridal party means more BM gifts and bouquets.
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Master September 2014
JustMarried'14 · on June 11, 2014 at 7:55 PM
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FH's cousin got married in October - 12 bridesmaids and 11 groomsmen 1 flower girl and 1 ring bearer...it was way too big. Not everyone fit at the front of the church, and intros took forever.

The more people you have that are not close and know you inside and out, the more drama you will have.
If FH really wants all these guys, they can walk 2 GM with 1 Bridesmaid
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Future Mrs. Burt · on June 11, 2014 at 8:37 PM
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We have 7 each, which is 2 too many for me if you ask me! I really wanted to include my cousins in my wedding so we have on both sides families being ushers, guest book/gift table, readers, 2 little cousins who are the cutest ever I wanted in the wedding but didn't know what they could do so I'm going to have them hand out programs before they get to the ushers. Have some of his guys be ushers maybe?!
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Celia Milton · on June 11, 2014 at 8:41 PM
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I didn't even think of the time factor, which is totally unlike me...a bigger bridal party means a longer processional and recessional, a longer set of intros at he reception, more photos too.
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Antoinette · on June 11, 2014 at 8:43 PM
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I have seven on each side and gonna have 3 ushers. Im not even including how many flower girls and ring bearers lol. But its all family and i wouldnt have it any other way.
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