How are you greeting guests?

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Samantha,

I DO respect everyone's point of view on this but I disagree, so does my partner.

It sounds like you're traditional and there's nothing wrong with this ... but

If I were your son and wanted to do a receiving line, I would kindly, respectfully) tell you the exact same thing and wouldn't put you in it. It doesn't mean I don't respect them, by the way! It means we are not traditional and we want to host OUR wedding 😉.

If the guests want to "congratulate" our parents, they can do this before (or after) the ceremony, at the cocktail hour or at the reception, right? We don't want to prevent them from doing it!

Plus: A receiving line with the couple only is a popular option.

"that’s something people do":I can easily argue that it's not a requirement, unless you give me a proof that it is ... maybe in your circle and/or area but not in mine.

My FW and I congratulate the couple only.We shake the hands or hug the parents but we DON'T congratulate them for something that's not about them.

Speaking of traditions:Many couples are choosing to take on all wedding costs on their own , don't list the parents of the bride on the invite nowadays.

Again: A tradition IS NOT a requirement and doesn't make a marriage valid or unvalid.

Once again: I respect wedding traditions and traditional people but:

1- This is not what we want.

2- Most traditional people don't respect other's points of view.

View Quoted Comment I honestly have no idea why you wrote this long reply to me and seem to be implying that I take issue with something?
I have no idea where you got the idea I was in conflict with someone, or that I am not respecting people. I’m actually a bit insulted that you are calling me out and accusing me of not respecting your choices and I have no idea what you are talking about.

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Because your 1st reply sounds like you wouldn't accept this POV.

I might be wrong but your "that’s something people do" means that my opinion is not acceptable.

View Quoted Comment Perhaps there is a communication barrier here. I in no way, shape or form stated you were required to do so.
Some people do. It is often customary to offer best wishes when a child marries or has their own children.
How you interpreted that to mean that I was serving up some disrespect to you is a mystery. Good day.

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This is not a matter of being disrespectul , it's a matter of "it's customary, people use to do X or Y". More and more people buck wedding traditions nowadays , that's it that's all.

You might be offended but don't post a negative comment if you can't stand a negative reply 😉. As I said above I might be wrong.

See you.

Our plan is to do a receiving line after the ceremony as everyone leaves the church, but I have noticed at a lot of weddings I have attended lately that not all guests attend the ceremony, so the plan is to do the walk around at the tables during the reception. We won't be attending the cocktail hour, so the reception would be the best time

Hello

We plan on walking up to guests at their tables ourselves. There won't really be any opportunity to greet them individually otherwise, unless we go full Goodfellas and I sit in a big fancy chair with a receiving line. But some people might find that weird and unlively.

View Quoted Comment Hmm interesting idea. Is it common to skip the ceremony? I personally have never heard of that

View Quoted Comment If you that it works from experience then definitely stick with it