I've known my FMIL for a few years now, but I still feel like she doesn't know me very well.
She has three kids, but I'm marrying her only son, who is also the oldest and the first to get married (aside from her older step-daughters), and I know this is incredibly hard for her.
I know she mostly likes me, although we're very different people with very different world views and we butt heads in a lot of areas. For the most part she's been very welcoming and generous towards me. However, wedding planning has put some strain on the relationship because we're not including in her in a lot of the planning process. I also feel that she doesn't see me as an adult, even though I've been living independently for 6 years now and am completely self-sufficient (I don't have any family around).
I want to foster a better relationship with her and help her get to know me for who I am as an individual, as opposed to just the woman who is marrying her son.
If you've been in a similar situation, how did you work towards a relationship?
