House or wedding?

I think you could do both !!!! Go over your budget and only do what is necessary for the wedding ! Slim down on things and cut out the extra stuff

View Quoted Comment Okay first on my list is cut down on guests but I'm stressing because i haven't done invitations, book a photographer, book a florist and my dress!! I won't be able to afford my ideal dress.

Is your yard large enough to host your trimmed guest list? We almost had our wedding in our yard. It could be a combined housewarming/wedding.


There are so many options to have your dream wedding on a smaller budget. You could do your own florals or fake ones, even some of the places that ship completed arrangements. Photography is hard to cut costs on but luckily wedding shows are a plenty after the holidays! Most vendors have deals for those and even giveaways. Your dress may be hard but there are plenty of discount stores where you may get what you want or at least close.
Personally, I wouldn’t do both. BUT it is possible.

We were in a similar situation. Wedding or down payment for a house. We decided on a wedding and a big honeymoon because we know once we buy a house we want to start a family and we don't want to give up the experiences and regret it. So we decided to go big on wedding and honeymoon, try for a baby on the honeymoon, rent for a few more years, and buy a house later.

Hi Yohana! Definitely yes we just recently wed 12/8 and we close on our new home 12/18 we just did it the other way around but still couldn’t go too extreme on our wedding ... being we just bought a home but it isn’t impossible to do. Take that leap of faith girl and buy that home and get married trust me you will be so so happy and you and your new hubby would have tackled to major milestones!!!

Here’s a lil inspiration!!!

I hate to be the grinch but in my opinion the wedding is one day, your house is forever and an investment in your future. I don't think you need to postpone but you would be surprised how you can cut corners. Not ideal but buy an invitation template and make your own. Can you email it? Not formal but something and saves on printing and posting. Maybe people you see in person you can hand deliver. Your ceremony is not always the most expensive part unless an expensive venue... It's the reception. Stick to beer and wine, maybe host it at your new house, a club house or something and do party trays or catered good that family can help serve. Your special day is you marrying your FH even if the day is not as big as you want it. I would also suggest see what he thinks and sit down and discuss budget and non negotiable. Such as I think photography is a good one to invest in where as videography is great but if that's where you can cut back then I would. Ultimately you need to do what's best for you but I am sure you can have both. Good luck

View Quoted Comment You can do anything !!! Try more DIY projects or decor or decor that was used in a previous wedding - as for your dress type in the style number and designer on google see if you can find it somewhere else !! Or ask local shops around you for it in stock or if they Can get it! Also ore owned if you are okay with that!

Honestly, I would postpone the wedding if you’ve already committed to the house. Too much emotional & financial stress at once. You really want to enjoy each of those events. My two cents.


Congrats on your home!!!

Well, let me throw out another idea. If you kept your wedding small & low key (fewer than 20 guests, courthouse ceremony followed by a brunch or dinner at a restaurant where you don’t need much/any decor, you can probably do both without going crazy).

I am actually doing both! I close on my house this week and my wedding is in August 2020. We have a separate savings account specifically for wedding stuff that we contribute to biweekly. as long as you’re smart about it, it can be done!

I’d say it’s possible to do both, strict budgeting, there are many corners you can cut with wedding planning to save money but if it came down to not being able to do both I’d chose the house and post-pone the wedding.

We were in the same situation, but we decided to go big on our wedding in August 2020, then save a little more for a few months and then start looking for our home. We decided that our wedding is a once in a lifetime thing, so we prioritized it first. We already live together, for about 3 years now after dating for 7.

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You can do both. What we did was get approval from the bank before we made any large purchases. We closed May of this year and are getting married 12/31/19

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much everyone for your responses! Appreciate it all what you've said and know I'm taking in consideration of what I should do.
I'll give you guys an update tomorrow!

I think that is a discussion between you and your fiancé on what YOU BOTH want. What are the priorities? What needs to happen to get what you want or okay with? For us we are recently engaged and planning on house first and then wedding about 10 months afterwards. Everyone is different and it can be done, however for me I am finishing grad school (will be starting new job next summer) and we are looking at houses now so I didn’t want to feel like I am trying to plan a wedding in the chaos. I think at the end of the day it’s individualized and do what’s best for you and your relationship.....you can’t go wrong!! Enjoy the process. At the end of the day the love for each other is what matters.

I would delay it, unless you are 100% sure all vendors & venue can delay all larger charges until after May. I would be surprised if some didn't need deposits.