Hotel- Who pays for Bridal Party

Traditional etiquette used to be that you do, in fact , pay for accommodation for OOT wedding party members. Times have changed.

From Miss Manners: "she would have told you that a bridegroom is not responsible for all expenses his groomsmen entail by participating-clothing, transportation, hotels. It is always charming to treat people, so it is not incorrect; it is just not required."

So, you don't HAVE to pay for accommodations, but it is kind to help out where you can. These people are spending a LOT to be in your wedding.

Rather than ask them to chip in or pay for their own rooms if you don't intend to help cover their expenses, I would just give them a list of either recommended hotels at different price points, or the list where you have room blocks.

If no-one is local, then it's fair that they'll have to travel. I would just watch the extra expectations like shower/ bachelorette. If you're counting on them travelling to those events too, then I'd pick up the travel if you can.

I've always paid for my rooms.

I think it is nice if you can cover it, but if not it's okay.

You don't have to pay if you don't mind where they stay. FH and I are getting two separate hotel rooms in the same hotel the night before the wedding. His family wants to also stay as it's close to the venue and they live an hour away. Some of my bridesmaids are traveling from out of state but I simply messaged them and said "Hey, I will be staying in XYZ hotel the night before the wedding, and the hairstylist is going to be coming to my room the morning of to get everybody ready. If you'd like to stay there as well to make it easy the price is reasonable but definitely feel free to stay at whatever hotel you're most comfortable." All of my girls are choosing to stay in the same hotel.

If it's their choice to stay in the hotel, they all pay for themselves.

I had a few out of towners in my WP and they handled their own accommodations and costs. in other weddings i've been in and gone to i've always paid for my own accommodations.

I would not expect my room to be paid for if I was in a BP.

As a bride, I will not be paying for hotel rooms for my BP, though nearly everyone is local but choosing to stay at the hotel anyway.

Sorry, they are on their own. That is part of taking the position of being in the wedding party. Knowing you will be paying a hotel for a night or flights if it is a destination wedding.

I have turned down being a bridesmaid in a couple of weddings over the years due to the destination and I wasn't comfortable with the cost. If you agree to be part of the bridal party, this is what you should expect.

I have never heard of the bride and groom paying for the bridal party unless it was a best friend, sister or brother.