Hotel or Airbnb?

There are so many factors to consider. Will the BM's have their own transportation? Will there SO's be attending and staying at the same place? Are there enough bedrooms that each couple can have their own space? Are you paying for the whole farmhouse? Do you expect them to chip in?

If I were a BM travelling for a wedding, I would want to sleep with my SO, not stay with the bride or the other BM's.

Unless my husband is also staying in the farmhouse, I’d prefer to stay with him at the hotel.

I agree with PP, is there enough space for the SOs to stay there too?

Personally I wouldn’t mind spending the night before away from my FH with the bride, but I wouldn’t want to spend the whole wedding weekend separate.

Before you go to far, contact the owner to ensure they'll be ok with it. Our family has rented several vacation homes where the owner was clear that you *couldn't* have a wedding there. We were chatting with an owner and they talked about damage to the lawn and huge electric bills that make weddings undesirable.

My family rented a house for my sisters wedding. It was awesome! We did just our family and then the bridal party got ready there in the morning. The night of the wedding my family stayed there again, but my sister and her husband stayed at the hotel that night instead. It worked it really well and was a lot of fun!

You may also want to consider where would your bridal party stay on your wedding night? You will probably not want to share that special night with other people. I think this idea is better for a bachelorette party or other girl's getaway, not for your wedding. If I were a BM, I would want to enjoy the weekend with my husband at a hotel, not being apart from him at night.

Other than the night before as a BM I would want to stay with my SO the night before I love staying with the bride and the girls are staying with me before mine. But I am paying for the hotel room the night before- especially for the one traveling I wasn't going to ask them to pay anything it is my treat as I love having my girls with me!!! I love the idea of the farmhouse- as long as you are welling to pay for it.

View Quoted Comment Only one of the bridesmaids has a SO, and as I said, she is welcome to stay with him if she’d prefer that. The others are single, and two are my sisters. 😊

Also, I would pay for the whole farmhouse, as it costs about the same price as a single hotel room.

View Quoted Comment Makes sense! Only one of my bridesmaids has a SO.

View Quoted Comment This wouldn’t be a wedding, just a place for the bridal party to stay. We already have a venue 😊

View Quoted Comment Yes I’d definitely pay for it! And I agree about BMs wanting to all hang out the night before, but not the night of the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the input! I agree this might be a really cool space for a bachelorette party/girls getaway instead. FH and I would stay in a separate hotel the night of the wedding, but either pay for the house a second night for those who want to stay there or arrange other accommodations for them.

Only one one of my BMs has a SO; two are my sisters and another is actually my FH’s sister so she may also want to stay with her family as they live 10 hours from them.

View Quoted Comment That’s awesome and a great idea!

View Quoted Comment I realized the way I worded it definitely implied I was thinking of renting it out for my actual wedding, so sorry for the confusion!