Hotel Block for destination wedding

View Quoted Comment Sorry but FI was right. I would seriously rethink this plan. When you invite people to a wedding reception you pay. Not only is the reception itself being subsidized in part or in whole by the guests staying at the resort you’re asking those who aren’t to pay an admission fee so that you aren’t responsible for anyone at all? How is that OK?


There is self imposed pressure to attend what you are calling your one and only wedding. Loved ones will sacrifice their time and money, even if what you are asking is completely unreasonable. It’s your obligation not to take advantage of their sentiments. Once you invite other people it’s no longer only about you.

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So let me get this straight-you are choosing to have a wedding at a location that requires your guests to stay at their location or an additional fee needs to be paid for their attendance to the wedding. You know this in essence is passing the cost of your wedding onto your guests to pay and you are fine with that. You also don't care if they come or not, nor do you care that you are being a very poor host.

Is this a legal wedding, as in are you taking the legal steps to get married in Mexico?

This whole thing is so wrong on so many levels. Are you really asking people on a wedding site for ways to poorly and rudely host a wedding? Seriously?

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Frist congratulations! I've been to PR and we did the Airbnb too. It was much better that way. I think we are not going to do it. We are going to let people book how that want and tell them to just mention our wedding.

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Yes, it does. Thank you and congratulations.

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The services will be symbolic.

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For now, we are not going to do it. But if we get more family and friends that ask about it, we will revisit getting one. Thank you.

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Are you telling guests that it will not be a legal wedding?

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"My peace of mind goes above all else and I understand obstacles people may have which is why I’m providing the information so that they can make the decision that is best for them. If that means not attending that is an okay answer. "

Your "peace of mind" and consideration for others are not mutually exclusive. Host at any level but host graciously. It sounds like you can't justify or don't want to spend money for the kind of reception and venue you envisioned and somehow feel entitled to and are shifting costs to your guests who are subsidizing it instead. Any way you look at it that is wrong.

No matter how many times you keep saying people don't have to come if they aren't OK with any of this it doesn't excuse anything. People who care about you the most will sacrifice to attend. This is on you, not them. Finally, I read the question, but when someone says should I do room blocks in the context of this unacceptable thing, the answer isn't "room blocks" it's "don't do the unacceptable thing." I think the idea of educating yourself is a very good one.

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As I stated my fiancé is okay with paying because we can indeed afford it. It sounds like you just want to throw in an insult because I don't agree with your opinion. But for my wedding my peace of mind and consideration for other people are mutually exclusive. I understand that you don't agree but I really don't care. Perhaps you should take your own advice on education, because I'm educated enough to know we live in a world of choices and opinions, and this is one of those times where is no right or wrong choice or opinion (and people are leaving tradition behind more and more). It comes down to your preference. My only responsibility is to provide guest with all the information so that they can make the right choice for them. I'm getting married regardless, so I'll be okay with any choice people make.

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We decided against doing the room block. We would rather leave it up to guest and we haven't really been asked about it. If it comes up, we will look into it again. Thank you for your insight.

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I share you sentiment, I want people close too. We decided not to do the room block for now. We may revisit later. Thank you.

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That is what we are going to do. Thanks.

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No, people are not leaving traditions behind more and more. That is a excuse for poor behavior.

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No, not nuts. You are not legally getting married, hence it is not a legal wedding.

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Thank you! Congratulations to you as well Whatever makes the most sense to you! Your guests will figure it out

View Quoted Comment “. But for my wedding my peace of mind and consideration for other people are mutually exclusive. ”


Pretty much says it all. At least you own it.

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This is actually super common for destination weddings in Mexico. Most of the reputable all-inclusive resorts require entrance fees/day passes for guests to enter the property to attend a wedding, if they are not staying at the resort. The only uncommon thing is the bride and groom not covering those entrance fees.

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If you can afford it, then you need to do it. If your mental health cannot handle it, then put your fiance in charge of it. Especially since he (correctly) wants to pay the fees for off-site guests. It is the perfect compromise, and you both get your way - you get to maintain your "peace of mind" and he ensures guests are properly hosted. Win, win.

View Quoted Comment Of course the AIs would require this. As I said, this is the only way any of this made sense. The so called on premise “wedding guests” are enabling OP to have her dream DW “wedding” mostly or entirely at their own expense. So why would the resort agree to make an exception for off premise friends and relatives? They aren’t in the business of giving things away.

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Then the couple needs to pay those expenses, the cost should not get pushed onto the guests.