Hosting a Honeymoon Bridal shower if couple is eloping

I think if it’s a honeymoon themed shower with people that will be invited to the reception that’s fine. If it’s intended to be a shower where people just give cash I wouldn’t do that.

I would feel really uncomfortable going to a shower where all of the gifts were cash (or equivalent). I also wouldn't want to (as a guest) be asked to pay for someone's elopement (which is essentially happening here if guests are contributing to the "honeymoon/planned elopement").

I guess you know the crowd, but I think this is really stretching the bounds of what is appropriate for a shower. Guests can absolutely celebrate with the couple at the reception (and they will likely bring gifts). Not sure why an extra gift-giving occasion is needed.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. I wouldn't do it.

The general etiquette rules seem to be
-shower is a physical gift giving event. Cash not appropriate
-it should be open to wedding guests only-before the wedding-keep it small to nearest, dearest, and local
Some sticklers on wedding forums will say that a reception after elopement isn't a "real" wedding and doesn't warrant all the prewedding celebration. I hope you don't know anyone so salty in real life.
Not sure what a honeymoon bridal shower is. Are the gifts supposed to be things they can use on the honeymoon? Like sunscreen or maps? I don't really get the concept and it may confuse or annoy guests.
I personally hate showers. It's saying, give me an extra gift! Depending on your crowd, I'd lean more toward a potluck or a nongiftgiving event.

I think throwing a shower is fine, but only if it’s a shower for actual tangible gifts, not for money. It feels super tacky to basically throw a party as a fundraiser to pay for their elopement that no one is invited to lol. But throwing her a regular shower (for people who are invited to the reception) is fine

I agree with you being able to throw your daughter a shower. Perhaps you could throw a honeymoon themed wedding while also having her register for a few gifts. This allows people to buy physical gifts or give money if they so choose.

How about and engagement party instead of a shower? They’ll probably still get some gifts but it won’t be a gift giving event. You could do a Greece theme!

While there are now hard and fast “rules”, this seems like a really sweet gesture! I would consult the couple, of course, but it seems so sweet! Congrats to the happy couple and to you, the happy mom!

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I agree with this. As long as guests are invited to the reception, they can go to a shower if your daughter has a physical gift registry.

If the reason for the shower is to have donations made towards the honeymoon or elopement, then no you should not have one of those. If they will have a registry for gifts, then sure, you can throw them a shower or you can just allow guests to bring said gifts to the reception they will have when they return which will probably make the most sense to the guests.