Horrible Bridesmais dress

You told her she could pick the dress she wanted and she did. Seems a little late to change your mind now.

View Quoted Comment I guess it just seems just like my sister to do something like this. The only reason shes even in the wedding is because she threw a literal fit that was wasn't and demanded she be and I didn't want to put up with her whining about it.

Idk what kind of relationship you have with your sister but can you just tell her you’re not a huge fan of the dress and that she’d look better in something else?


Like, you did tell her she could wear whatever dress she wanted so it’s not really your place as “bride” to veto the dress choice, but like as a sister/friend, I feel like my friends would want me to be honest if I didn’t think a dress looked good lol.

I don't think it's worth stressing out about. I'd probably let her wear it but put her at the back of the line 😂😂

If you let them pick the dress, you don't really have a leg to stand on when you don't like the dress. So I'd let her wear it.

I went through this exact situation. I told my mom I didn’t like what my sister picked and my mom went and helped my sister pick out an appropriate dress. I avoided the blowback and she ended up with a more mature gown.

I would also just let them. One of my bridesmaids wore a dress I wasn't fond of. It wasn't ugly it was quite pretty actually but I found it to be distracting compared to the other girls but it is what it is. Part of letting them choose their own gowns is so they are comfortable and could be more likely to wear again

I feel like you should just let her wear the one that she picked, especially if she already purchased it.

Again if she would be receptive to you telling her that maybe she doesn’t look great in it or something and she would change her mind then go for it. Otherwise I wouldn’t fight with her about it since you told them they could pick

Did she already buy the dress?

This is the risk you run when you let bridesmaids pick their own dresses. In many ways it's easier for you to not have to look for dresses within budget/color/whatever, especially if you want mismatched vibe. OTOH the downside is you lose control.

Personally I think the best way to go is for you to pick out a generous selection of dresses, and have the bridesmaids pick out of those - that way you still have control and pre-approval, the bridesmaids still get some choice, and the bridesmaids have less "work" to do.

At this point, I would tell her it's too casual if she hasn't bought it yet. If she has bought it, I would let it go unless she can easily return it for full refund, she shouldn't have to pay for two bridesmaids dresses.

View Quoted Comment I just got off the phone with my mom and she said she was able to rationalize with her and she chose a new one she liked and my mom said it was much better! Thank you for this tip I don't know why I didn't think about it!

View Quoted Comment She hadn't purchased yet but my mom helped her find one she and I both loved!

In letting your girls decide on what dress they wanted, it wouldn't be fair to have your sister put it back because you don't like it. It's a double-edged sword for sure but like they say, be careful what you ask for. You said you didn't want to put up with her whining so it's either that or put up with the dress. Good luck.

View Quoted Comment Yay!!! I’m so glad it worked out. Trust me, I was stressed out about my sister’s first pick but it all worked for the best.