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Expert November 2016

Honoring Stepdad

ATLBride, on September 13, 2016 at 5:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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I tried doing a quick search for this, but I didn't see my particular situation.

Background: My mom's boyfriend has been in my life since I was about 15 (I'm 28 now). Since I was older when he came into the picture, we never really had a super strong bond, but I recognize him as my stepdad even though they are not married. He has always helped me and he's a great man for my mom, he's even paying for our wedding photographer and some of the alcohol. For added context, my biological father is not in the picture and is not invited to the wedding.

My dilemma is that I'm not asking my stepdad to walk me down the aisle. Is there some other way I can honor him? I still want both him and my mom to "give me away" and I was thinking about a father daughter dance with him, but wanted to see if you lovely ladies and gentlemen had other suggestions or things you've seen?

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Erin Wood · on September 13, 2016 at 5:38 PM
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I think a father daughter dance would be very special. My step Dad and I were very close. He passed away a year ago this month after a very short battle with cancer. You are very lucky that your mom found a guy you actually feel close to. I think honoring him is important.
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Jessica · on September 13, 2016 at 5:40 PM
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My father is walking me down the aisle and there will be no traditional ~dances~
We decided to craft our own unity ceremony with an officiant that will involve our parents and we'll have my stepdad involved with that.
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FutureMrsValencia · on September 13, 2016 at 5:41 PM
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Oh god! That's super sensitive ... Who's walking you? .. Remember this man sees you as his daughter and even though he won't say it will hurt him deeply ... He should be involved somehow in the wedding..
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ATLBride · on September 13, 2016 at 5:44 PM
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@Erin Wood, I'm sorry for your loss. Cancer sucks. And I agree whole heartedly that he should be honored in some way.

@Jessica, thanks for the suggestion. I've seen the moms included in the unity ceremony, but never thought to involve both parents. We might be able to do something like that.
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ATLBride · on September 13, 2016 at 5:45 PM
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@FutureMrsValencia, I'm walking by myself. I'm well aware of our relationship and want him to be involved somehow which is why I'm asking for suggestions.
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