Honoring our loved one

I think you should let your FH navigate this. It's really up to him how he wants to remember her on his wedding day. You don't want to do anything that could upset him or the rest of his family. If you want to surprise him with something, I think it should be something small like a lapel pin that wouldn't be super obvious to others.

View Quoted Comment Well he’s talked about honoring her too but he’s also clueless on what to do. I was thinking a picture frame next to our candle lighting or sitting the picture frame next to his mother and placing a flower in front of it

Maybe do something like this with maybe a candle lit beside it burning in memory of her, or even a fake candle if the venue doesn't allow candles and maybe a few photos of her around it or one medium sized photo next to it..

You could get him a lapel pin with a locket/photo of her for your hubby. At weddings, I prefer a photo table rather than an empty seat with a photo of the deceased. Our officiant offered to say a prayer for everyone who was with us in spirit that day, and call them by their names—that may be an idea both of you like (my hubby was so close to his mom he didn’t want anything at our wedding to create sadness or have him cry so check with your FH first).