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Autumn
Beginner June 2024

Honoring my dad who has passed at my wedding.

Autumn, on October 5, 2022 at 12:32 AM Posted in Planning 0 6
I lost my dad just over 3 years ago due to COPD and I planned to honor my dad in every aspect of my wedding day but I need opinions on what my thoughts are!

My brother is physically walking me down the aisle but I was planning to do the bouquet details with a picture of him and a quote along the lines of “walk me down the aisle daddy.” Planned to save him a chair at the ceremony with a sign and a flower. And also was thinking about doing a picture slideshow/video during the reception and play the song we would of danced too while dancing with my brother (during the slideshow) then have it go into a song for my brother and I and dance with him for that as well. I need thoughts and opinions cause I tend to overthink too much and have been back and forth on the idea. Help!

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Latest activity by Autumn, on October 27, 2022 at 9:36 AM
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    Becky ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad a little over 5 years before my wedding and this is what I did.

    We displayed photos from each of our parents weddings where they stood with their parents on the sign in table - because in addition to my dad, we are each missing three grandparents. (obviously this only works if there weren't divorces/etc.)

    I wore a locket with his photo in it, so he could "walk me down the aisle." My brother escorted me, and when the officiant asked "who presents this woman" he replied "on behalf of those here, and those unable to be, I do" to give a nod to the fact that my dad should have been there.

    I danced with my brother to the song from which my dad got his nickname for me. (Obviously a very emotional moment.)

    I did not do the empty chair, because I *knew* I would break down if I saw it there (and my mom would have too).

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  • Paige
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    Paige ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. This all sounds like a very lovely way to honor your dad!

    The one thing with slideshows is that, depending on where the screen is set up, it can be hard to watch that and the dance at the same time. Some people want that on purpose, but it's something to consider.

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  • Autumn
    Beginner June 2024
    Autumn ·
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    Thank you ❤️ And awesome thank you!! I was wondering if it was too much but at the same time it’s all areas he’d be a part of if he were here and even though it will dampen the mood at the reception for a minute it would be loved by everyone there especially his family!
    Very valid point I didn’t think of!! And that’s something I’d have to figure out once we land on a venue! The one I’m hoping for, it would be directly behind us but slightly off center but still in the same general area so people could watch both. Thank you for mentioning that. I’ll keep that in mind thru my planning! ☺️
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  • Autumn
    Beginner June 2024
    Autumn ·
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    Thank you ❤️ I’m so sorry for your loss as well 😢 I was also planning on having a table of everyone that can’t be with us. I think it’s called a memorial table, is that right?!
    I planned to do the bouquet accents as well for my dad and grandparents as well, I think it’s such a sweet piece to include and I agree for the fact he’ll still be walking with you down the aisle that way and I love your brothers wording when they asked who gives this woman away!! I will bawl my eyes out I’m sure too! Thank you for sharing what you did to honor your dad with me and help me with honoring mine ❤️❤️
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    Becky ·
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    Just remember you have to feel what you feel. You are probably going to have times that day when you have a wave of sadness - try to be in those moments too, not just the happy ones. He'll be with you that day.

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  • Autumn
    Beginner June 2024
    Autumn ·
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    You’re 1000% correct. I needed to hear that, thank you SO much ♥️♥️
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