Honoring family veterans on 11/4 wedding

Thats nice and all, but its your wedding - its not about the veteran's - its a celebration of you two. To me it feels like "in memoriam" they do at award shows with a slideshow like that. I personally would skip it. They have veterans day to celebrate them for a reason, the time is not at your wedding.

View Quoted Comment It would not be a memorial as the people featured will actually be at the reception. No one dead will be featured.

My FH is military and we have about 40 people coming to our wedding that are current or prior... We are just having our Dj asking them all to stand up and then cheersing them. I think a slideshow is a bit much... this coming from a military household. I know a lot of our boys wouldnt be comfortable with that much singled out attention.

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I understand that, I just said it kinda feels like its like it - I understand they are alive.

I don't think this would be as universally welcomed as you believe, and it doesn't sound appropriate for a wedding.

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I agree with this. Sounds very strange and out of place for a wedding.

I know your intentions are good, but I wouldn't

We are actually getting married ON Veterans Day, and will have multiple veterans in attendance, including the groom. I asked my FH if he wanted to do anything to acknowledge it, and he looked at me like I was crazy. He basically said why would we do that?? What does Veterans Day have to do with our wedding?? And he did make a good point. The celebration is about you and your spouse. I would just keep the attention on the wedding

As someone who spent years as a military spouse, this is really a know your crowd of veterans thing. My ex-husband and most of the guys he serves/has served with would not want to be openly acknowledged at someone else’s event like this.

Thanks for everyone's input. I get random ideas all the time ( unmedicated adhd will do that). I think I agree after hearing from all y'all

I wouldn't do that. Agreed with everyone else. I just saw your response, glad you're receptive to input!

Maybe an acknowledgement/thank you to our veterans in attendance if the bride or groom is doing a toast, would be thoughtful

My fiancé is a veteran and I don't think he would feel it necessary to acknowledge them at our wedding since it is about us. However, if you still do want to, I like the idea of them being asked to stand or you could get little pins (like flags or something) and have a little basket where they could choose whether or not to get one and put it on. Then they could choose if they wanted to be recognized.