My mom passed away in 2011 from cancer. I am getting married May 4, 2019. I've read a lot of posts on this site from people in similar situations along with some really great ideas for honoring love ones who passed. ( Framed photos, memorial table, candles, empty chair with flowers, bouquet charms ). I really liked all of them, and I really want to do something special for her, but I'm concerned it will be too hard for my dad and I to see these things the entire evening knowing she's not there enjoying it with us. My dad puts on a strong face but I know he is still hurting very deeply just like I am. The wedding and reception are going to be outside so I don't think candles will work. We are having a sweetheart table instead of a head table because our wedding party is very small, only consisting of my maid of honor, my dad and my fiance's best man. My fiance's parents will not be there only his sister. So there's no place to put an empty chair with flowers except next to my dad's chair. I'm afraid a memorial table might be too morbid. I did purchase a small table top sign that says "we know you'd be here today if heaven wasn't so far away", and I have no idea where to put that. I guess I'm just afraid of doing something that will make us sad on a day I don't want to be sad. But doing nothing at all would break my heart. Does anyone have any suggestions or words of wisdom to help make there right decision. Thank you and May the 4th be with you 😉