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Devoted September 2018

Honoring Deceased Grandmothers

Tara, on February 9, 2018 at 1:27 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 12

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I was extremely close to my late grandmothers as a kid, and I really want to honor them at our wedding.
We're planning on having a table at the reception with their photos on it, and a sign saying something along the lines of "we know you would be here today if heaven weren't so far away".
There's also a few details incorporated into our wedding in honor of them. We're getting married on my maternal grandmother's birthday (picked the date before realizing this and it seemed like a sign). Since I always played cards with my paternal gransmother, we're putting a deck of uno on every table for people to play during cocktail hour. I also might be incorporating their favorite flowers into the bouquets.
Would it be weird to have a note on the photo table explaining these tributes? It'd mean a lot to me for people to understand the significance of these things. We're also planning on having a brief moment of silence for them at during the ceremony.

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Devoted September 2018
kNrYwC · on February 9, 2018 at 2:07 AM
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I, too, am obsessed with my late grandparents. We are honoring with a photo table, quote & probably one candle on it that will stay lit all night. I am using my grandparents cake topper and have a bracelet my grandma wore to her sisters wedding, that I will have my sister (MOH) wear in mine. Will get the small photo frames that can hang with a bouquet. I thought about announcing these things, too, but I don't think we will include anywhere. You're doing it for yourself, after all. The people who will be touched by it (aunts, uncles, parents, cousins) will know what each item is...others could probably care less.
Really cool about the date! We are one day after my grandmothers birthday, also accidental.
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Sabs · on February 9, 2018 at 3:01 AM
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The uno cards sound like a really sweet idea! I love it! I think the explanation cards would be nice to know, as a guest. I like when people who have passed on are remembered by the people who love them.

My best friend will have passed away almost six years ago from the date of my wedding, so I’m thinking of incorporating her memory in my vows because she was my other half and now my FH is my other half. I’m not sure if that’ll make people too sad, though.
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JerseyGirl · on February 9, 2018 at 5:36 AM
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We incorporated different thins in honor of my grandfather. Our venue was close to where his house was (he always said we would celebrate his 100th bday there), bouquet charm, his favorite flower in my bouquet and butterflies throughout our wedding. With that being said, these tributes were only known by me, DH and my parents. Personally I find the table and moment of silence too sad for a wedding atmosphere. FYI I understand the desire for the UNO cards but don’t be offended if they aren’t used. They most likely won’t be as everyone’s focus during cocktail hour is food, drink and socializing.
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WED18 · on February 9, 2018 at 7:41 AM
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Personally I think the bouquet charms or wearing a piece of jewelry or other subtle tributes are better than the empty chair or photo tables. I lost my dad 4 years ago and since then his photo has been displayed at 2 family weddings. I was extremely close to my dad and seeing his picture on a memorial table was a constant reminder that he wasn't there with us, One of my daughters will be displaying his photo, but it is his wedding picture and will be included with the wedding pics of all her guests in honor of happy successful marriages instead of a reminder of who has passed.
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Ashley · on February 9, 2018 at 8:01 AM
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I think an explanation of the uno cards on the tables would be great! I think guests would appreciate the sentiment and it would clear any confusion. You could do a sign by the memory table or do little signs explaining on the tables.
We are getting married on my nanas birthday. I will be honoring her, my other grandmother and his with a memory table. Items that represent them and ofc pictures! Ive been debating about incorporating them into the tables. I know of a woman in my area who takes clothes from loved ones and makes them into memory bears. I think I will end loving the memory table the most at my wedding! Family has always been a big part of my life.
Good luck! Love your ideas.
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Alisa · on February 9, 2018 at 8:19 AM
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I lost my grandmother in 2012 and I took care of her for two years before she died after I graduated high I am remembering her by wearing her pearls on my wedding day. Also I am hanging a charm with a picture of her in it on my bouquet. I am having a memorial table for all of my grandparents and my FH grandfathers who have passed away. I also lost my twin sister and I am putting a chair up beside me to mark her spot as if she was in the bridal party with a wreath and candle sitting on the chair.
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Tara · on February 9, 2018 at 8:41 AM
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Totally fine if they aren't used. We have several cohorts of guests that have never met each other (hometown family/friends, college friends and our friends from the city we live in now). So its just a fun way to get people talking. Also should mention we're having a very laid back wedding at a boyscout camp, and the cards kind of go along with our overall theme.
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Tara · on February 9, 2018 at 8:45 AM
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Totally understand. In our family, we frequently talk about my grandmothers and have their photos displayed everywhere. One passed away 12 years ago, and the other was over 3 years ago after being extremely ill for years, so the pain isn't as raw for us. I'll definately clear it with my family first though!
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Tynell & Cynthia's Wedding · on February 9, 2018 at 8:49 AM
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I am doing a memorial table too the letter is kind of different and people probably won’t take the time to read it. I purchased decal for a memorial candle from Amazon
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caitlin · on February 9, 2018 at 11:26 AM
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I think the memorial table and your explanation note is a lovely idea, even if it's just for your own peace of mind. not everyone will take the time to take it in, but those who do will be moved by it.
i honoured my grammas at my wedding with my jewelry-i wore my maternal grandmother's pearls and had my paternal grandmother's cameo on my bouquet, as well as one of her cocktail rings on my right hand.
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Kelsey · on February 9, 2018 at 11:32 AM
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I think little explanation cards are a great idea. Maybe you can print out a little explanation on stickers and stick them to the back of the playing cards, just in case people don't come across the table that tells them everything?
My husband and I had each lost two family members, so I purchased a lantern and dedicated each side to each person by designing it with something they loved and their name (I made with my Silhouette Cameo). I also designed a sign I got printed. The immediate families of these people were so touched, sharing it social media and whatnot. I think it was a good way to honor them without it being too much
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Devoted September 2018
Tara · on February 9, 2018 at 11:42 AM
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This is beautiful
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