Honoring deceased flower girl in program

You could have a bracelet or some sort of picture hanging down to honor her. I'm not so sure with wording.

So sorry for your loss. I have seen candles lit in honor of those who have passed. Maybe it would be sweet to do a basket of flowers with a candle in them in some way with a nice sign?

I would be sure to ask her parents before you do anything though, my FH's cousin lost a child and did not want it brought up. Of course this is different for everyone, but it is something to be aware of.

I can't think of anything worse than losing a child.

OP, ask the child's parents if/ or what they think is appropriate.

Sorry for your loss, OP.

I would definitely check with the child's parents... it can be really graphic to do anything really obvious especially dealing with the loss of a child.

That is so sad. I would definitely defer to the parents. They may want something remembering their little one, or they may prefer not to be reminded and have to deal with regrets from other guests during the wedding

The parents are totally fine with me honoring their child, their wishes or for her not to be forgotten, she was a cancer victim, they have a foundation in her honor...

Maybe you can list her in the program as a Flower Girl - (name), in memoriam

And instead of favors donate to Maddie's Mark? (Sure you already thought of this). Or maybe if Maddie had a favorite thing (candy or cookies) you could have those.

I mean, one huge way to honor her would be to have a charitable registry towards Maddie's Mark instead of an regular registry.

What if you put a little locket picture of her on your bouquet to honor her, and also on her sisters bouquet?

I also like the idea of listing her in the program as flower girl-in memoriam

@WED1819 I love the idea of "Flower Girl - (name), in memoriam"

I am missing a bridesmaid because my only female cousin dead in a car accident when she was 16. I wish I would have thought of listing her name in the program before they were printed. However, I have a vase with her name etched on it that I am going to submerse flowers in and have a floating candle on top. The candle will be at the ceremony, and then moved to the table where her family is sitting for the reception.

Oh wow I heard of that foundation. My cousin died of the same thing. So sorry for your loss. What about lighting a candle in memory of? And I also like the idea of a bouquet charm for you and the sisters.

We lost an angel at our preschool to cancer as well. Her celebration of life is this Saturday and it's been rough for everyone. I'm deeply sorry for your loss. This is tragic.

I love the idea of a locket and her name in memoriam in the program.

I got a silver pendant made from etsy with my grandfathers handwriting saying "love always papa". I plan to add that to my bouquet.

I'm so sorry to hear this I woulld call her "flower girl in heaven" just like you did here.

I like the idea of donating to Maddie's Mark in lieu of favors. what a tragedy. I can't imagine anything worse than losing a child.

Are the parents open to coming up with a few ideas or depend on the sisters' ages, maybe they have some thoughts as well. Then pick one from their list.

I'm so sorry. I honestly would not put anything in the program. While her parents may be fine with it, I think it would be jarring for guests to get a program and see a tribute to a flower girl who passed away way before her time. The injustice of it makes me sick to my stomach just typing this. Also, how would her sisters feel? How old are they? Will they have any other relatives there?

Maybe say something like "today we have 2 flower girls in our presence, but in our hearts we have 3 here today"

So sorry for your loss!

I like the idea of a flower basket at the end of the aisle with a candle.