Hey guys, so this is a bit weird to ask, but literally last night my brother and I had to make the tough decision to put his cat to sleep. She was only two years old and had severe liver damage that we had tried to help fix, but she was too far gone. I want to honor her in some way at my wedding next year because she was such an important animal in mine and my fiancé’s lives. We have a cat of our own, but this little fur ball was just something special that we helped take care of. I know people honor dead grandparents or parents at their weddings sometimes, and I understand that while she wasn’t technically mine that this might seem weird that I want to honor her, but I just feel like she deserves it because of how important she was to my brother, my fiancé, and I. Maybe I’m just too emotional and think it’s weird to consider, but I don’t know. I just feel the need to honor this little fur ball. We have her paw prints and I was thinking of asking my brother to use that and a photo of her to honor her.
We wanted to include our pets in the wedding without having them there with us (no pet policy at the venue). We opted to make donation cards in our centerpieces to let guests know that we'll be making donations in lieu of favors. Three of our 10 tables are for the shelters in which we donated from.
I had 1 dog & 1 horse growing up, my husband had 2 dogs. We had all their pictures on our memorial table with pictures of our grandparents and other important people who have passed with a sign that said "you should be here".
I am a total animal person - I foster dogs and I volunteer at the Humane Society - but please, no memorial to a cat - or any dead people. It is a wedding, not a funeral.
I like the idea of naming a cocktail after your fur kitty.
Courtney: You are asking for donations at your wedding? Panhandling at a wedding? Yes you can say it is a donation but.........so instead of a favor, which is something you give your guests, you are asking them to open up their wallets? Please rethink this.
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I disagree with no memorializing at a funeral. Both my grandfather and my eldest brother, the closest people I had to father figures, passed away before I could get married. They meant a lot to me and I want everyone to know that had they been able, they were my first two picks to walk me down the aisle. Maybe it's not for everyone, but I intend to put their pictures in charms on my bouquet and have a small place reserved for them inside.
For the kitties maybe you could have her paw prints turned into little charms you could wear in your hair or on a bracelet, and I also like the idea of naming a drink after her.
I totally get that I am in the minority on memorial tables. It is just that your emotions will already be heightened and seeing past loved ones can be very jarring for a lot of people. Your charms idea is the best - kind of discreet yet you are honoring them! I wore my dad's high school class ring and no one in my family knows I have it and it showed up in every single picture, lol!!! Guess they may know now!