Honorary groomsmen

To clarify.. 8 BM and 8 GM so 16 total

"Honorary" anything is not a real role. Either give them the actual role or let them be a guest. "Honorary" means do the work without any recognition and it is not an honor to anyone.

Also you don't get a say in who stands on his side, same as how he doesn't pick your bridesmaids. If you want your brothers included, have them stand on your side as actual bridesmen.

I think that's a big diss. You could get them boutonnieres and have them seated as part of the processional. Or make them ushers.

"Honorary" sounds like a consolation prize or afterthought. I'd skip it or add them to the bridal party

Honorary doesn't really mean anything. I would be pretty disappointed, like I wasn't good enough. Is there a reason your brothers can't stand on your side with you, especially since you said you had a hard time finding eight bridesmaids? (This assumes of course that you have not formally asked anyone yet). Don't pick people just to make the numbers match - pick those that you are closest to; it will make your experience so much more enjoyable!

The designation of someone as a groomsman is an honorary title, so having an "honorary" groomsman just doesn't really make sense. Sides don't need to be even, but I do agree that a 16 person bridal party is quite large for a 75 person wedding.

You’re either a groomsman or you’re not. I’d rather not be in a wedding at all than to be given a made up title because having even sides is more important than having me in your wedding.

Since he has more than you, you can always have your brothers stand up on your side as Brides men. Nobody said your bridal party has to be all female. Also nobody says you have to have the same number of maids as groomsmen. Ten attendants would be a lot though so definitely make sure you only choose people you really want as a part of your wedding party.

I would incorporate them in other ways instead. My FH and I also aren't having our collective 6 brothers and 1 SIL in our wedding parties, but are having them as readers, ushers, and "flower guys" (started as a joke, now becoming very real lol).

I would either have them in the wedding or don't. Honorary groomsmen isn't a real thing. If you really want them in the wedding then I would have his brothers be groomsmen and your brothers be bridesmen. My brother was a bride's man in our wedding and my husband's female best friend was a groomswoman. Men don't strictly have to be on the groom's side.

I wouldn’t do the honorary title. Honorary titles very rarely come off as an “honor”. If I were in your situation, I would just make the brothers groomsmen. You each have two brothers, so your sides will still be even- 10 on his and 10 on yours. And rather than having 20 people stand with you, I would just have the wedding party walk down the aisle and sit in the front row.

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I agree with this. Why do your brothers have to be on his side? Also, sides don't have to be even--mine aren't.