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Just Said Yes February 2019

Honorary Flowergirl/ring Bearer for private ceremony

Keri, on July 16, 2018 at 2:05 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 5

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My fiancé and I are having a private wedding ceremony and won’t be having a bridal party, but we will be having a reception with our family and friends after. I really want my niece and nephew (ages 6 and 3) to be included and feel that they have a “role” on the wedding day somehow. Would giving them small gifts and asking them to be the honorary flowergirl and honorary ring bearer be appropriate? Or does anyone have any other ideas for something special that they can do at the reception? Any input is appreciated. Thanks!

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Latest activity by OrangeCrush, on July 16, 2018 at 11:24 PM

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Hannah · on July 16, 2018 at 2:31 PM
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By honorary do you mean they will not walk down the isle? I think this would be cute as long as you very clearly explain what they will be doing for the day. So if they are getting dressed up, taking pictures, walking down the isle or not. I say this to make sure they dont get super excited to do something you didnt intend on having them do. If that makes sense? I know flower girls can get really excited to walk down the isle for instance.
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MrsD · on July 16, 2018 at 4:08 PM
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I wouldn't ask them unless you plan on them walking down the aisle and being an actual flower girl or ring bearer!
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Maren · on July 16, 2018 at 7:07 PM
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Hi Keri! Could you explain what you mean by "honorary" ring bearer and flower girl? Will they be the ring bearer and flower girl in the ceremony? Or are you looking for a different role for them to be honored in just the reception?
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Just Said Yes February 2019
Keri · on July 16, 2018 at 7:54 PM
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To give a little backstory, we are having a private ceremony (just us, the officiant and our mothers as our witnesses) because my father passed away 2 years ago and I don't feel that I can emotionally handle a proper wedding ceremony with all of our family and friends without him there. The less it feels like a "wedding" the less I think I will ugly-cry the entire time. So neither of them would actually walk down the aisle as it will just be the 5 of us in attendance for the legally getting married part. Our reception is going to be the "main event" and what we are sending out invitations for. I am like a second mother to my niece and nephew (not to mention their parents paid for my wedding dress). I don't necessarily need them to be called flower girl or ring bearer, or to even have them formally recognized at the reception. I would just like to give them a title for the day, to let them know how important they are to me, and for them to be able to say I was "this" at Aunt Keri's wedding.
Hope that clears it up a little. Thanks everyone for the feedback so far!
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OrangeCrush · on July 16, 2018 at 11:24 PM
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I agree - just recognize them as special guests at your wedding reception.
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