Honeymoon or Baby?

To be honest, I would not try to conceive or have a baby until this pandemic is over. Too risky. I don’t think your ages are a problem but can you both meet with doctors about it and your current health? I would listen to doctors more than other couples on forums. ♥️

I agree with PP, you should both consult doctors and let them know your plans for conceiving so they can give you feedback based on your health. I had two kids, one at 27 and the second at 28 (though back to back is not for everyone!), and had an ectopic pregnancy last year at 32. You are definitely not too old, just make sure you both get checked out so you know what to expect.
Also, I would definitely honeymoon before having a baby, but I’d be too scared to get on a cruise ship until Corona is gone because I would not handle being quarantined in my room on the ship at all. I know a lot of couples are doing road trips instead or doing a local honeymoon. Maybe go on a cruise as an anniversary trip down the road? Now that I have kids, my travel destination priorities are completely different, but FH and I still get away for short trips just us when we can. Gods luck!

We had to cancel our honeymoon and are TTC instead. We’ll go on a trip one day. I do agree your doctor can give you the best advice. As for us personally, we are not willing to wait indefinitely while we are stuck at home anyway. I know so many people who have had healthy pregnancies and births. Of course you are not too old but you never know how long it can take or how long this will go on. We are 30 & 36 and have no known health issues yet we are on month 3. If you feel it’s best to wait, please do it. But it’s easy for someone who isn’t in this position to say just wait another few years.

My biological clock is up I’am 37 and Fiancé is 40 our wedding got postponed to next June we rather have honeymoon then try for baby we had miscarriage last year so I rather get married first then try for a baby after whatever works for you is your choice

I agree. Pandemic and pregnancy or birth would scare me. Many women gave birth alone due to this pandemic. We have 3 kids. With our 1st baby he wasn’t allowed to be inside, because it was the catholic hospital policy back then in 1998. I was so shocked and scared. I was so much happier when dh was with me from start to the birth of our 2nd and 3rd.


Have your honeymoon! We never had any honeymoon because we married at 18 & 23, due to pregnancy and no money. This time (vow renewal) I demand a honeymoon. I don’t want to wait until I am old and who knows I lost “the fire”.

It depends on how eager you are to have children. As someone who has been struggling to conceive for almost a year and is now doing IVF, I am so glad we did not put off trying to start our family anymore than these unfortunate circumstances have forced us to :/

I have friends in their 40’s that have given birth. And have friends that have given birth to healthy babies this year.
I’m 41 and have been checked by my doctor. She said I’m healthy and good to go. I had a follow up visit to ask my doctor further questions. I was concerned that if I had the possibility of even conceiving and eventually started to get emotional. It’s crazy how sensitive we can get about this topic. My doc reassured me she had plenty of patients over 40 that have healthy babies. If come there any bumps then we’ll figure out things when we get there. My visit gave me some hope.
We eloped and had to move 2x and hope we can have a honeymoon in December. I guess whatever happens 1st and we’ll make do.

We're doing a very short honeymoon that we're driving to after we get married in January. After we get pregnant (which is complicated because we're women) we're going to take our long honeymoon/babymoon. So maybe do a short honeymoon and do a cruise one when you get pregnant.

I like the suggestion that PP did where she went on a short honeymoon and then a long one later on

We're planning the same as Lorraine (which is a lovely name btw!). We cancelled our big honeymoon plans for a road trip within driving distance. That way we still get a sweet getaway after the wedding BUT it's safer and cheaper than flying, and we can apply that saved cash toward buying a home. After the wedding we're not TTC right off the bat, but if it happens it happens.

I personally would wait. I’ve had friends who have had international adoptions to IVF treatments put on hold because of the pandemic. Hospitals are being strict and Itis such a crazy time. That’s me personally... you know what you want and you know your body.

I would go for the honeymoon! Medical technology is so advanced right now in fertility that your age most likely won't be an issue if there isn't another underlying issue (my understanding, but I'm not a doctor!). I agree with everyone that a doctor could give you better advice about your fertility prospects. And there's always other options like IVF, surrogates, or adoption!

Vacation is such an important part of my and my partner's mental health and relationship health that our honeymoon is really important to us, so we'd definitely pick that. But, we aren't even close to TTC, so I don't have the same outlook.

We're facing a similar dilemma. Our honeymoon was originally scheduled for the end of April, pushed back to the end of September, and now is TBD in 2021.

We wanted to have our honeymoon first and try for a child. Well now we're not starting our family until sometime next year. We're similar ages to you and your FH (me 30 and husband 35), and we sometimes feel like if we don't start now then we may lower our chances. However, given the current climate, we've decided to embrace our first year of marriage, travel, and enjoy life right now no matter how crazy it may seem.

Good luck to you and your FH!