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Honeymoon: Kids or no kids.

Teresa, on April 20, 2020 at 9:07 PM Posted in Honeymoon 0 9

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Hello everyone. What would you do? I have 1 child. We haven't made plans for much on our wedding original plan was a long engagement a year or 2. But with recent development we decided, why wait? Whenever we discuss wedding plans, honeymoon always comes up. Well, a huge factor on what we do on our honeymoon is what to do with the little one. Fiance and I currently do not live together, so our dream honeymoon is in a hotel just doing what we want for (we haven't worked out how long). Lol. So much is in the air. I try to convince my fiance best time is summer, my teenage sister can help my mom with my 3 year old and maybe my uncle who has adopted my daughter could take a week to help as well. My mom isn't in the best of health and she is the best person to watch him. But he wants to get eloped which means no one will be here to help, which would mean little man comes with. So if you have kids, would you do your honeymoon with them or without them?

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Latest activity by Meagan, on April 22, 2020 at 7:23 PM

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Caytlyn · on April 20, 2020 at 9:15 PM
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I don’t understand how eloping or having a traditional wedding changes whether or not you have childcare for your honeymoon? Either way, I would prefer a child free honeymoon. If you’re concerned about your mother’s health and it could be a safety concern, obviously that’s a different story.
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Teresa · on April 20, 2020 at 9:18 PM
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Eloping means family members will not be in town to help. A traditional wedding or giving family time to get here means more family members can be here to help my mom. That is the difference.
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Hannah · on April 20, 2020 at 9:50 PM
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Is it possible for you guys to meet in the middle and do a micro wedding with just a few important family members? That way someone (who has agreed to) will already be there for the wedding and then can extend the trip to help watch your son. Personally, I think a honeymoon and a family vacation are very different. While I don't have kids, I have a 5 year old niece who I adore, but I cannot imagine trying to have a romantic vacation with her as a 3 year old running around...
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Teresa · on April 20, 2020 at 9:55 PM
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That is kind of what I am trying to do. Just important people, my son won't want to be around my Uncle but he will my sister. My mom is the person he identifies best as someone he can be comfortable with. So them being here to help seems important for us to have the honeymoon we want but I don't know why my fiance doesn't see that.
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Hannah · on April 20, 2020 at 10:00 PM
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I guess I would just ask him if he wants to have the opportunity to uhh consummate the marriage cuz you aren't going to be able to really do that with a 3 year old. I don't think he's old enough to be left alone in a separate hotel room, so I'm assuming you would have 1 room with 2 beds. If this assumption is wrong, then I apologize.
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Teresa · on April 20, 2020 at 10:03 PM
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No. You are not wrong. I think we would splurge for a 2 bedroom hotel or do an airbnb and just childproof his bedroom. It would be almost like being at home. Our honeymoon would be local.
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Trisha · on April 21, 2020 at 9:10 AM
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We Planned On Having Our 2 Boys With Us, But Bringing FH’s Mother &/Or Sister Along As Well So They Can Help Watch Them When We Want To Be Alone. We Were Planning On Disneyworld. We Want That Family Experience With Our Little Ones && Time For Ourselves.
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Maggie · on April 21, 2020 at 1:51 PM
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I'm still not understanding why it's either/or, big wedding and kid-free honeymoon or elopement and kid-ful honeymoon. You can separate the wedding ceremony/elopement from the the honeymoon. Make your childcare arrangements, then elope, then go on your honeymoon (dropping off your kid with whoever agreed to take him at any point during that timeline).
But ultimately the choice of what to do comes down to what you and your future spouse prioritize and want to do. Good luck with your plans!
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Meagan · on April 22, 2020 at 7:23 PM
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We don't have children, but I always say this to my friends that do. If it'll make you lose sleep going on a trip without your child, bring him with you. If it's possible to splurge for a suite or to bring someone along with you to keep him company at certain times, do so. If not, plan something that you can all enjoy together and create those memories together. But it doesn't make sense (to me) leaving him for a honeymoon if all you're going to be doing is worrying and checking in. You mentioned your mom isn't in the best of health, so you'll probably do a lot of worrying about her as well. If you can work out childcare at home that you don't have to worry about, then leave him at home. If not, bring him.
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