Honeymoon Fund/cake Bets

This is pretty classless to me. Presumably people are spending money to travel to your wedding and then buy you a gift. Asking for more money is just ick. Counting it should be the least of your worries...

I thought about doing this in the beginning but FH was against it because he thought it was kinda tacky to ask for money at the wedding and he didn't want cake all over his face/clothes. The more I thought the more I agreed. Most of our guests wouldn't contribute. I'd just have a bridesmaid or a coordinator take it to a room and count it real quick. That way it's not in front of everyone and a little secure. Then they could just put it in an envelope for you or put it back in the jar. It's a know your guests thing.

That's such a cute idea! I would guess go by the look or have someone you trust take it somewhere away from guests and count it and have them announce who had more.

View Quoted Comment I have to agree. This seems cute at first but kind of tasteless the more you think about it. I really feels like a fundraiser more than some of the other ways people collect money at a wedding.

If you really want to do it. You could have someone take it to another room and count it. Or you could do something without money. Like asking everyone to drop a token with marriage advice in one jar or the other

This is soooo tacky, and i.would be so irritated if my daughter did it to her guests

View Quoted Comment Oooh I love the advice idea! We had talked about this honeymoon fund idea because neither of us want to be caked in the face but know it’s a fun part of the wedding. This seems smart!

I wouldn't personally do this. We skipped the traditional money dance for the same reasons listed above. No reason to ask your guests for more money when they've already spent money to be there.

I'd either go by looks (I wouldn't count) or make a deal on who will get the cake in the face.

I spent a long time having my hair and makeup done. If there was more money in my jar I wouldn't want the cake in my face anyhow. My husband and I just fed each other a few bites and called it a day. There doesn't always have to be a show.

View Quoted Comment I feel like you can absolutely skip this entire thing, including skipping the cake in the face part at all. I have such sensitive skin and would absolutely get a horrible acne breakout on the honeymoon if there was cake on my face... not to mention the whole thing kinda just grosses me out lol. Especially if you’re saying neither of you want to do it anyway... just don’t lol

I agree with everyone else, it does seem like a fundraiser. And then with the fundraiser thought it made me wonder whether you could still do the money thing but make it very clear that all the proceeds will be donated to a local charity or a charity that is important to you and your FH? I still think you’ll have to consider whether people will actually participate, I don’t think it would be successful at my wedding even if we were donating it. It’s kinda toss up these days whether people will even have cash on them

I think it's cute. Happy to say the dollar dance is still alive and well in my family. Won't catch me at a wedding without cash.