Honeymoon fund registry

View Quoted Comment The sites generally just give you a check(after taking fees out). Your aunt doesn't realize that she didn't ACTUALLY gift them a helicopter ride.
People will bring envelopes to the wedding. Just use that money toward the honeymoon.

Yeah on this site you're going to be told it's rude, but honestly like I said, I consider it exactly the same as a traditional registry. So don't go by what others on here say, if you want to do one, then do it. What one person thinks is rude is fine to others. It's your registry and you should get something you'll actually use. Honeyfund has been simple and easy to use for me and no one has said anything bad about it.

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IMO, honeyfunds are so tacky. And from what I understand, all the sites do is take a few and give you less cash than your guests gave. People know cash is a good gift.

My best advice is: search "honey fund" on the forums and read the thousands of comments already posted before.. this is a hot topic and the ultimate answer is: no need to ask for cash. If you don't register for gifts, people will get the hint that that's what you prefer.

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I had never heard of a honeymoon registry until my parents brought it up. They attended a wedding where the bride and groom had a honeymoon registry and my parents loved the idea! We brought it up to a few of our close friends and family to see their opinions on it (since they know travel is a huge part of our lives) and they also loved the idea and raved about how easy and convenient it is! The best advice I can give is: know your crowd. Our wedding guests are all into more modern ideologies and dont consider it rude. Just do what you think is best! We are using Travelers Joy for our honeymoon registry. Hope this helps!

My fiancé and I are in the same boat so we did a honeymoon registry through Honeyfund.com and it has been awesome! It lets you break up “gifts” by categories such as flight, hotel accommodation, food, etc. so guests feel like they are actually picking out what their money is going towards, which I think is a cool feature. We have had multiple people submit on there already and it’s exciting to see the gifts (money) come in! highly recommend.

It's so funny to me that asking for a honeymoon fund is rude but asking for a wafflemaker is just good wedding gifting. I'm sorry for the negativity you have received on your post. I actually know a few brides that have done this and I myself am doing something similar. We don't need anything, we recently just moved states and downsized greatly and we can't even fit all of our stuff into our home, we have a storage unit full of stuff we can't use. So no we do not in any way shape or form need anyone to buy us materialistic items. We are doing a honeymoon fund and such and those who love us think it's an amazing idea. And if people who are supposed to be your "friends and family" are soo offended by NOT wasting money on a useless gift then personally I wouldn't want them at my wedding. You are under no obligation to kiss anyones a**. Good luck! And Congrats

View Quoted Comment Oh, it’s SO nice to get a response like this!! Yes! We don’t have room for anything anymore!! It seems like such a waste. Thank you so much! How are you going about it? Seems like sites charge fees??

View Quoted Comment We actually didn't do it through a sight, I found a cute box at hobby lobby that literally says honeymoon fund and cash and checks can be put in it! And everyone that knows us knows our situation and they are okay with helping us in any way they can.

Honestly, asking for money is rude. No cute poems or websites change this. And there is a fundamental difference between a honeymoon registry and a traditional One- there's such a thing as too many toasters and no such thing as too much cash. A traditional registry is meant to help keep you from getting duplicate gifts and to give guests ideas if they want to give a physical gift. I'm pretty sure no one has ever said "well, Aunt Kathy already gave us $100, so we need to make sure we don't get duplicates." Not to mention who wants $93 instead of $100 because of fees.

The negativity of some of the people on this post is so laughable.

View Quoted Comment Right?! I was no expecting that at all

View Quoted Comment We have a jar labeled "Honeymoon Fund" that we're going to have out at our reception. My fiance and I have lived together for 3 years and don't need more stuff, so we're asking for money towards the honeymoon and our future home! Also, Pinterest has some cute ways of asking for money instead of gifts. I don't think it's rude at all to do so, and more and more people are going this route nowadays anyway

For Chinese weddings, it is traditional to give the bride and groom a red envelope filled with money so it never occurred to me that asking for money instead of a physical gift was rude.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Since my generation has apparently failed miserably in teaching our children the concept of hospitality, it seems clear to me that the whole concept of weddings should be rethought.

Who better than Miss Manners to preside over this process?

Brides could sell tickets (with different price points, to accommodate people who are still paying off those pesky student loans). This eliminates the need for people to try to find a wedding gift that will please the bride. Brides could set up salon stations outside the venue, so all the women will have matching hair and makeup.

Final touch: Provide pinnies jerseys or robes to all, so everyone will be dressed alike, preferably in an unflattering style/color, so the bride will be the only pretty woman there.

I have paid $2 for a glass of soda at a reception and been buttonholed by the bride, who reminded me that I hadn’t sent a gift yet and she could take a check “right now.” (Yes, that really happened. The friendship has cooled.) Dear Miss Manners, I despair.

GENTLE READER: As well you might. As you have seen, what you predict is very close to the reality of many of today’s weddings: The assumption is made that guests must pay to attend, if not in the form of buying tickets, then of contributing to the costs of the wedding or honeymoon, and buying whatever the couple states that they need.

Couples see the event as autobiographical pageants in which they are the stars, thus the attempts to costume everyone else. And the concession stand.

Why those targeted go along with this, Miss Manners cannot understand. Surely there is better entertainment available for the price. And if more refused to pay up, the custom would naturally wither.

But what does Miss Manners know... Brides are more about seeking redemption then asking opinions anyways...so why bother.

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I wish there was still a "like" option....

View Quoted Comment I’m really not sure who miss manners is and what you’re trying to say in this response ..

View Quoted Comment Perhaps it's a good time to learn?

Miss Manners is suggesting that guests stop giving gifts altogether since couples have become greedy and demanding how they should be gifted. Trust me, she has a bigger audience than WW.

Manners Maketh Man