Honeymoon fund registry

I would love ideas for this too!

Asking for money in any form, including a honeymoon registry is rude. Create a small registry of physical gifts and people will get the hint and give you money/checks. Just think, you keep all the cash and don't have to pay a fee like you do with the rip off honeymoon registries.

Don't register, people will take the hint.

It's your family and close friends so I don't see it as rude, I see it as what's needed. You give "gifts" that's wanted or need to the couple so if it's money towards something you get to share I see nothing wrong with it! Maybe don't just say give money towards honeymoon but something cute and catchy....not sure about a honeymoon registry, I haven't heard of it but sounds great! I have heard of a dollar dance, a friend got over 400 at her wedding! Good luck!

If you just have a small gift registry with the things you want (or no registry at all), lots of people will take that as a polite hint that money would be a great wedding gift for you.

You don't need to ask for money. Everyone knows it's a wonderful gift option. It's rude to ask for it.

Another thing to consider with honeymoon registries is that they take a percentage of the gift amount. You're better off in terms of both finances and etiquette if you just don't go that route.

Honeymoon registries are rude. Don't worry, people know how to gift money.

Most of what I've seen on here says that honeymoon funds are rude/tacky, but I don't see any difference between registering for help with honeymoon expenses and registering for stuff at a store. We have a regular registry with a few things, but we also use honeyfund for a honeymoon registry. None of my friends or family think it's rude, so don't let others' opinions stop you if that's what you want to do. I'd much rather contribute to someone's honeymoon than buy them some random registry item that has a high chance of just collecting dust.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I’m thinking!! I know, I didn’t expect people to think it was “rude”. I wouldn’t want people to waste their money on things we don’t need!! People are going to give you something regardless. I’m more of an experience over things person, so I feel like it lets people know what you really want!!

View Quoted Comment How does honeyfund work???? Do you like it?

View Quoted Comment Hmmm. I guess people think it’s rude??? I never thought of it as rude. I’d rather people not waste money on things I don’t need!

Honeymoon funds are considered rude because asking for money is rude. Honeymoon funds also charge your guests a fee (Hint: that's how they make their money), so you are essentially using a service to charge your guests a fee to take their money and then give it to you.

Everyone has things in their home that need updating. Register for some nice new sheets, or new kitchen appliances, or don't register at all. Guests who see that you have a small registry or no registry will get the hint and give you cash.

There will also always be guests who are stubborn (usually older family members) and will buy you a physical gift regardless. A small registry will give them some guidance so they will get you something you actually like, instead of something they randomly chose.

Macy's created the gift registry in 1924 and it was not immediately well received. People gave cash before then if they gave anything at all. There is nothing inherently rude about honeyfunds. There are just people set in their ways and possibly not even aware of how relatively new their way truly is. They are slow to accept something that is different from what they know or were taught. That doesn't mean they are right. And honestly, the only opinions that truly matter are those of your guests. Think about how accepting they are of what you want to do and go from there.

Even if you want to ignore the fact that many will find a honeyfund rude (even if your friends & family don't say that to your face), why would you want the amount your guests choose to contribute to the honeyfund basically "taxed" by the honeyfund site? You get less than the amount your guests intended to give you, and your guests are basically paying a fee in order to give you the equivalent of cash.... That's just silly on all counts! Follow the advice of pps: have a small registry for upgrades or no registry at all, and most people who choose to give you a gift will give you cash or a check in the card. You'll then deposit that money directly into your bank account, without having someone else take part of it! Don't say anything about what you want for a gift on the invitation. You can list any registries on your website. If nothing is listed, guests will figure out $ is a great option.

You should really use the search tool in the forum & we generally suggest lurking for a while before posting. I lurked for 3 months before even commenting. There are a billion threads on this topic (usually one posted at least every other day) and they all go the exact same way with the exact same answers. The idea is not well received by the long time & regular users here because the general consensus is that it’s the same as outright asking for cash; Honeyfund simply sends you a check after your wedding for whatever people have contributed minus their fees to do so for you. The easier route if you want money for the honeymoon is to simply not register & people will more than likely get the hint and give you cash. However, if you have a shower then you need to register for at least enough tangible items to cover that event since the entire point is to “shower” the bride with gifts to help start her new home.

Rather then a honeyfund i have heard of people giving the travel agent contact info where guests can call & pay for whatecer towards your honeymoon that way no one is paying a percentage & yoy get the whole thing...people think its rude because they are set in their old ways....

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People think it's rude because it's rude. Would you ever do this at any other time than your wedding? What is it about having a wedding that makes people feel entitled to other people paying for their vacation?

I actually have had family members mention to consider this as part of our registry! I told them I had concerns over others thinking it is rude but they thought it was a good idea. My aunt recently said she was able to gift toward a couple's helicopter ride as a part of their honeymoon. She said people could choose different activities the couple had picked out and donate toward that. I wish I knew the site just to check it out and see.

View Quoted Comment It’s not at all feeling “entitled for people to pay for s trip” a registry is people paying for things in your house? The point of this was to get feedback on people who have gone down this route, not for people to be so negative. I’m more about experiences than personal things, so I think it’s a good idea. Maybe a site isn’t a good idea, I didn’t realize they charge fees. I can come up with another create ways, it’s not “asking for cash” it’s letting people know what you want for your wedding

View Quoted Comment Yea!!! I’ve heard that too! I think that’s so cool. People know where their money is going. It’s not just “asking for cash”

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your feedback!! That’s a good idea. I would have never known the sites charge you fees!