Honeymoon Fund HELP

Say no you don;t want it there as you see it as rude and gift grabby. Just because they are contributing does not mean they get a say in everything

Figures a place like Hobby Lobby would sell things like that .. not surprised!!

I would tell her NO and leave it and tell her if she can't accept that than you will be glad to take over the costs of your wedding. She doesn't get a say in every single detail!

What @Keisha said. Also, will you be having a DOC? Can you have someone keep an eye out for it and remove it if she tries to put it up without you knowing?

Tell her its rude to ask for more money from guests. What is she expecting? Someone to sign your guest book and drop a dollar in? Sorry, even if she's paying she shouldn't do something you don't want. If she can't understand have your DOC swipe it up before too many people see it.

@TheRealJJ I wish it was breakable. Pretty sure the front was plastic. She went into a story about how she had a big jar out for her daughter's high school graduation that said College Fund. To me, that's okay and funny. Not at a wedding though! I guess I just need to find my bridal balls. I have a hard time saying no to her.

You could conveniently 'forget' to pack it.

I'm praying she forgets about it. I've already had a few instances where I've had to tell her a hard no on things, I definitely don't enjoy doing it though.

ETA There's no way I could have a DOC swipe it and her not notice. She'd think someone stole it and panic.

1. No more Hobby Lobby, ever (seriously, as a woman, don't do that.)

2. Make sure your DOC knows about this, and takes the box away if someone puts it out.

Lol @Asta, can't say shit now that you're stuck with me!

What is so hard for so many people about saying "No. We are not going to solicit extra money from our guests."

I'd definitely tell your DOC to remove it if it appears.

Do you guys have your honeymoon planned/budgeted for, yet? I'd tell her the honeymoon was already covered and that the box will be unnecessary.

Tell her you want to keep it for you and FH to be saving up yourselves, like Penny said. If she insists on it being at the wedding I would say "This box really makes me uncomfortable. Can you please prioritize my comfort over your desire to have this box for my wedding day? I'd appreciate it."

It points out that she is acting like a box is more important than your feelings, which is super rude of her.

PS I love your avatar. I plan to become Blanche when I grow up hahaha

My mom bought me something I didn't want out - similar but not a honeymoon fund thing. I asked her for it so I can store it with the wedding items and then "forgot" to bring it that day. At least that was my excuse had she asked. She didn't even notice it wasn't around.

@BlueHen we don't have a honeymoon planned yet, we're fairly undecided as to where we want to go, but she doesn't have to know that!

Katy - I'd let some time pass. She might eventually bring it up again, and if she does, hopefully at that point, you guys have a better idea of what your honeymoon plans are like, and you can just mention that you already have it covered. I definitely wouldn't start a conversation about the honeyfund box with her just to mention it. She might just forget about it if no one else brings it up!

No Hobby Lobby and no box.

"We don't feel comfortable asking our guests for money. We'll be happy to put it out in our house and throw all our loose change into it! Thank you!"

Tell her that is not something you feel comfortable having and will not have it at the wedding. Have a friend hide the box if it shows up.

My MIL (who is generally amazing and not bonkers at all) was adamant that she needed a VIP section in the front rows for her friends. We went round and round and round about it, the morning of my friend happened to see hand written and torn papers (looked like an old envelope) saying VIP. She ripped them down and brought them to me. It came up once after the wedding, when she asked where they went, my friend said she didn't know I then said they were not appropriate and her VIP friends were able to find their seats without the signs. She apologized about her "momzilla" moment about a year later, lol.

I like Celias idea. Accept the gift and put it in your home! throw loose change in there. Its amazing how fast that adds up.

I changed my mind, honey funds are the way to go!!!!!!!

Second this idea. Just tell her OK FMIL to shut her up and then "lose" it. Or better yet return it