Honeyfund?

You'll find that on this forum, and within many other groups, honeyfunds are very much frowned upon. I personally would create a small registry, and to not worry about receiving money - it'll be gifted to you regardless. I created a pretty large registry and still received a good amount of cash. Honeyfunds are perceived as tacky and not financially savvy.

I can tell you how the responses here will go: Most people will tell you asking for money in any form is rude, that you should just have a registry, and that honeyfunds are tacky, blah, blah, blah. Honestly, I am doing a small registry with honeyfund. If you have mostly younger guests, I really doubt it will be a huge problem. As long as you provide enough registry items for people who don't want to give money, it will probably work out fine.

I suggest you not get one.

I had one and there are genuinely some positives: it's good for telling people what you're using the money for, it's good for the guests to give last minute gifts if they don't can't run to the bank or have checks (my guests loved this part), you don't have to worry about checks being in the wrong names, and it's fun to set up an "experiences" registry.

The big negatives are that it breaches traditional etiquette and THE SITES TAKE YOUR MONEY. 2.5% doesn't seem like a lot initially, but trust me, it adds up real fast.

You should search Honeyfund in the search bar. You will find a lot of negative responses.

I think they're tacky and was raised to NEVER ask anyone for money. The whole point of a registry was to shower the bride and groom with gifts to start their new life together (because mostly, the woman would live at home until marriage so they needed these things.)

Honeyfunds take a rather entitled twist.

These sites take a percentage of your money anyhow, wouldn't you rather receive a check from Aunt Sue for $200 than receive it online for only $195ish? (example) these amounts add up.

If you'd rather people give you money, either create a really small registry (there are ALWAYS things you can upgrade, new pots and pans? New bath towels? SOMETHING?) and let others bring money or don't register at all and people will get the point.

I personally always take money as a gift because I don't have time to shop for an actual present and people can do what they want with money.

There is no reason to allow an anonymous middle man to take a cut of your gifts. If you simply don't register or have a small registry (who can't use new sheets or towels?) Your guests will give mostly financial gifts, and you get to keep all the money!

These are not well received here. We are just not registering for anything in the hopes of getting cash instead.

I was thinking of having my own little version of a honeymoon fund. I will have a small registry and then on my wedding website I will have a small paragraph or something explaining the experiences we would like to do for our honeymoon. Then people know that even if they are given money, it's going to something. I don't like the idea of those honeyfund websites because they do take a percentage. I will definitely have a small registry but our house is pretty small so we dont need a ton of stuff taking up space

As PPs have said, honeyfunds are not well received here. They take a percentage of the money gifted which isn't cool in my eyes. Plus, if you dont register, most people will know right away that you want cash anyway.

Also with the honeyfunds, depending on the site, you dont even get the money until AFTER YOUR HONEYMOON. The money doesn't actually pay for the events or dinners. It just goes to an account and then they cut you a check. If you are not leaving right away, you will have time to deposit the checks given to you and depending on your bank will have access to that money right away. Plus any cash gifted to you.

I would just do the small registry like you said and leave it at that. No messages on websites or anything. Cash/check is pretty much the standard wedding gift nowadays.

While I think the concept of a newlywed fund is great, I personally would never contribute to one. PPs have mentioned that a small fee is taken out when the funds are used and I would want the couple to receive 100% of my monetary gift. For the bridal shower, I would give either cash or a gift card to where the couple was registered and for the wedding I would definitely give cash.

FH and I have lived together for a bit and have most of what we need but we do need some upgrade items. I'm making a small registry that has a variety of items that we need to replace/upgrade or things I wouldn't buy for myself. Some of our guests are old fashioned and would prefer to gift based on our registry. I also know some guests would feel more comfortable giving a gift off the registry or a gift card to the store where we're registered for the bridal shower. It is complicated because every situation is different depending on your wants/needs and your guests.

Hi! We did something kind of similar. We did make a small registry for our more traditional guests, but we put on there that instead of gifts or objects, to please help with a downpayment on our first home. So far, all of my guests are loving it! Saves them the time and trouble of having to go shopping.

Honeyfund worked great for us! We linked from Honeyfund to a retail registry for only a few items we really needed (like you, we have plenty). 1/2 the guests brought cash/gifts, 1/2 asked for registry info (we sent everyone to Honeyfund and from there they could decide what they wanted to get us: honeymoon experiences or store items).

Proper etiquette: do not include any registry or Honeyfund info in your wedding invites or website because you don't *ask* for gifts. If/when guests ask where you're registered, then you can tell them.

It seems many people find this tacky, which I personally do not get because how is asking for gifts on a registry any different?

I have signed up for a traditional registry and Zola cash fund to go towards us buying a house. We mostly have younger guests and this issue of needing to give material gifts seems to be more for an older generation. The plus side with doing it on Zola is your guests pay the 2.5% fee...so if they don't want to incur that cost they can still go ahead and give you cash/check at the wedding or of course, go off your regular registry.

I do advise though still doing a traditional registry because some people just don't really care what you want and are adamant on giving you a physical gift, so they will go off the registry and get you something you most likely won't want at all.