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Jeanette
Expert July 2021

Honeyfund (i'm getting an error message!) or Gofundme?

Jeanette, on September 30, 2020 at 2:55 PM Posted in Honeymoon 0 23
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We originally set up a Honeyfund and thought that would be a classier way of collecting for our honeymoon fund (we're having what is a destination wedding for most guests so it's also easier on them). But as I've been finalizing our Zola wedding website I haven't been able to successfully sign into Honeyfund. If I press "sign in" or "sign up" I automatically get a 403 error... I haven't managed to log in in months! I tried contacting their customer service and will see what their response is, but it doesn't give me much confidence.

Has this error message happened to anyone else? We are in Germany, and I'm wondering if it might be making the difference, which sucks. But obviously when I originally signed up and started working on it, I managed! So weird... Smiley sad

If Honeyfund doesn't work out, what's everyone's opinions on Gofundme? I really didn't like this idea because in my mind it's for charitable donations and things more important than my honeymoon, but I do see that it's used that way?

Thanks! Smiley smile


**EDIT: we are an international group of people so cash and cheques are probably not the easiest solution for guests either. We live in Europe, but are getting married in the USA. Family and friends are from UK, Europe, China, etc...

Also I am not asking you if you like the idea of us having a honeymoon fund. Smiley heart

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Latest activity by Jeanette, on October 1, 2020 at 9:54 AM
  • Katie
    Expert January 2021
    Katie ·
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    Just don't make a crowdfunding campaign or registry and guests will mail or bring checks.

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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I would not use GoFundMe. As you said, that is for charitable donations. I honestly would just not register at all, and if people ask, just say as such: "no, we aren't registered because we don't have space for anymore stuff." People know cash is a good gift and will give you cash or a check in a card. Honeyfunds take a percentage of the gift anyway.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I mean this in the nicest way, but using GoFundMe for your wedding is incredibly tacky. Your wedding isn't an emergency or a charity. Just let people gift cash and stop worrying about paying a third party to collect it for you.

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  • Madelin
    Devoted November 2020
    Madelin ·
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    I have honeyfund and it worked for a while. I think weddingwire took it off of its registries because target appears just fine on my website. I just pasted the link to my page. My guest have opted to give me cash and gift cards in person (with a card). So I feel like it served its purpose. I would try what I did and see if that works. As long as people know you want cash, you should be fine. Also, you won't have any amount deducted from the gift.
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  • Jeanette
    Expert July 2021
    Jeanette ·
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    Honeyfund (i'm getting an error message!) or Gofundme? 1
    It's just a question 😊
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  • Jeanette
    Expert July 2021
    Jeanette ·
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    Sorry I updated my post to say that we are an international group of people so cash and cheques are probably not the easiest solution for guests either. We live in Europe, but are getting married in the USA. Family and friends are from UK, Europe, China, etc...

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  • Jeanette
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    Jeanette ·
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    Yes in my mind it's for charitable donations, yet I see on their website people have used it. So I'm asking to see opinions.
    Also sorry I updated the post to say: we are an international group of people so cash and cheques are probably not the easiest solution for guests either. We live in Europe, but are getting married in the USA. Family and friends are from UK, Europe, China, etc...

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  • Katie
    Expert January 2021
    Katie ·
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    Trust me, if they want to send you money they will. I just celebrated via Zoom with family members from Asia, Europe and US with no registry and received plenty of checks, venmo name requests, etc.

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    Michele ·
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    Have a honeymoon within your means and save up for a fancier trip later. Register for fun stuff (card games, whatever fits your hobbies if you truly don't want upgrades for household items) on Amazon that can ship internationally. Be aware many people do not gift cash. Gofundme is for medical emergencies that insurance doesn't cover and similar dire emergency situations and not appropriate for a wedding fund.
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  • Jeanette
    Expert July 2021
    Jeanette ·
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    Yeah our Honeyfund page shows up find for me, but I can't log on to edit or eventually to collect the money. Smiley xd

    I do think that if guests find it convenient to give us cash, they will, but I worry about the convenience of euros or dollars etc with our group of people. So I wanted the option of a site like Honeyfund if it's too much of a headache for them to figure out.

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  • Jeanette
    Expert July 2021
    Jeanette ·
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    Ok Smiley smile thanks for sharing your personal experience!

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  • Katie
    Expert January 2021
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    In all fairness, the conversion and "headache" would really be on you, not them.

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  • Katie
    Expert January 2021
    Katie ·
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    There are also money orders, cashiers checks, endless ways for money to be given internationally.

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    I agree with this. We have family in a number of countries. I'd guess especially since you'll be traveling to different countries for wedding events, the guests in those countries who choose to give monetary gifts will likely give them in their local currency and then it will be up to you to manage the conversions. We've sent international money orders to relatives overseas, but they can be a hassle to get and have fees associated with them. At the same time, I can't imagine an online fund site isn't also going to charge fees for handling international currency. Like others said, at least in the US, I think there would be strong odds of a negative reaction to a "GoFundMe" wedding site, as they are usually sort of a last resort in a crisis (and, I would guess there would still be fees associated with foreign currency transactions -- they charge a fee just so a person can "donate," so they'll charge even more for a conversion). Yes, you can probably find examples of people who've done it, but that doesn't mean it will be well received.

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    Expert December 2021
    Casey ·
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    You asked for opinions on GoFundMe for weddings and you got one, then replied to it in a very defensive way. I'm sorry it isn't what you wanted to hear but you asked. 🤷‍♀️ You yourself said you didn't like the idea.


    I agree with Caytlyn entirely, I think it looks tacky because GoFundMe is intended for charities. The site might allow and even celebrate being used as a honeymoon fund but the truth is that it's become known for something else (charities & emergencies) and as a result, the way people view others using it as such will be effected.
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  • Jeanette
    Expert July 2021
    Jeanette ·
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    Yeah I guess either way it's fees. I just want us to absorb them and people don't go around trying to convert money for us, is all. I guess I'm over thinking it but I didn't want anybody making a special trip to the bank for us or something and bother them. But I guess everyone is an adult and can figure it out themselves. 😂
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  • Jeanette
    Expert July 2021
    Jeanette ·
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    Oh sorry I didn't realize I responded to you defensively?


    Oki doki, just asking since I'm not actually in the US a lot since I was young and don't know how it's viewed. Maybe there's some other side to it that I don't know of. This was what I thought, although I don't usually like to describe things as "tacky" to people's Internet-faces. 😅
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    I'd guess this is going to vary a lot by who the people are who might want to give you a monetary gift. If they themselves travel internationally, they'll likely be more sensitive to different currencies and the processes for conversions. However, if they don't travel much, the whole idea may be completely lost on them. One of my relatives has lived in Australia for 40+ years and we still have extended family members in the US who will drop a check written on a US bank in the mail to her for a gift.... When my mom was still alive, the Australian would endorse the checks and send them to my mom who would then cash them and have them converted to an international money order or wire transfer -- it was a LOT of hassle. Now that mom is gone, unless the checks are for large enough amounts to warrant the conversion fees and hassles, my relative doesn't attempt to cash them. Unfortunately, I don't think there is any way around the process and costs of international currency exchanges. Good luck!

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    Expert September 2020
    Willow ·
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    Honeyfund and Zola are specifically for wedding registries. GoFundMe is known for charitable fundraisers. It may be trying to expand its platform to include wedding funding, but I wouldn't use it. It's like using Craigs List for dating. It has a primary purpose that's not what you're looking for, and a definite ick factor.
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  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
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    We used the Knot's feature. They have their own honeymoon/cash fund, and you can label 'asks' with cute things like "breakfast in bed" or "romantic getaway" or something.

    It was easier to transfer to our own bank account, and the fees were minimal.

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