Holiday wedding

I personally wouldn’t attend a wedding a few days before Christmas, especially during the middle of the week, unless you were my best friend or sibling. Traveling around Christmas is expensive and taking extra days off around the holidays can be really difficult for some people.

Personally I think 2 days after Christmas would be better. The days leading up to the holidays are so hectic. In the end you have to do what's best for you.

I would struggle with a mid-week wedding at any time of year. I think in this case it's safer to go with the Sunday wedding two days after Christmas. I would attend.

From the bride and groom perspective I would not care. I would do what is best for us and not worry if people are mad. Either they come or they don't. If the people were close I would make an effort even if I did not stay the whole time. I am eloping on a Sunday which is not super convenient for my MOH and her husband but they will be there no matter what. We did what was best for me and my budget. That is just me.

I agree with PP, the Saturday after Christmas would be better. Not everyone gets Christmas Eve off and a lot of people aren’t allowed to take days leading up to major holidays off along with the hectic commuting and getting ready for the holidays themselves. It would be a lot easier for people to do it the Saturday after probably and it will feel more like extended the holiday than making it come faster if that makes sense?

From a guest perspective, I would not be able to attend a wedding around the holidays because so many people ahead of me request that time off that I wouldn’t be able to get it. If I could get it, I probably wouldn’t mind attending a holiday wedding, but giving a reasonable amount for a gift might be more difficult given the expenses of gift giving at Christmas.

As a group of strangers lots say they wouldn't attend but I if I was someone who obviously loves you and supports you HELL YEA!!! lol

A friend's daughter got married Dec. 27, a few years ago -- I believe it was a Thursday. The wedding was lovely, and they were able to find vendors fairly last minute (I think the wedding was planned in about 6 months) because it was a weekday and not a typical wedding date. However, she said they didn't really think through the impact it would have on their large number of guests that would have to travel. It put people in a tough spot because they either had to travel before Christmas and spend the holiday away from home and incur more hotel/meal/etc. related costs or they had to rush to travel the day after Christmas. No matter when they traveled, flights, etc. were much more expensive. Also, the parents of the B&G ended up feeling like they had to host a LOT of extra stuff for all the guests who traveled -- including major Christmas Eve and Christmas Day celebrations because what else were those guests supposed to do? They didn't want them spending it alone in their hotel rooms. All that extra stuff drove the total wedding-related costs up considerably. Overall, she said her daughter and SIL had a lovely wedding, but years later she still feels really guilty about the impact it had on guests and she said she wouldn't recommend it to anyone. That's just one family's story.

View Quoted Comment Majority of our guess list is family, his family is normally in town around Christmas. I am a teacher so anyone not family would most likely also be off already and wouldn't really be traveling for the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I understand it's definitely crazy, but the one venue I like is going to be about 1,800 during the week, but 5,000 on Friday-Sunday.

View Quoted Comment That's exactly what I'm thinking! I just was looking for vaildation that I'm not crazy to think this could work.

View Quoted Comment My fiance was the first grandchild and first nephew so I feel like his family would make it work and it they couldn't we could celebrate and share details of the wedding at Christmas.

View Quoted Comment Wow!!! that's a huge difference. They'll just have to deal with before Christmas lol.

I would never attend a wedding mid-week (Fridays already push it for me). I would find it very difficult to attend a wedding, especially out of state, the same weekend as any holiday.

View Quoted Comment I think any wedding day could work but I just feel that to the couple it just depends on how important is it that a lot of guests show. The reality is this there might be a guess that's bothered by the date that you choose but I also feel like this it is your wedding and you choose who should choose what's best for you and if they can make it great and if not they don't. I agree with what some other people are saying is that they may have to factor Christmastime into their Christmas money and vacationing which can be a pain but I don't see like this if it's that bothersome then I just wouldn't go out of my way. I think honestly you two have to do what's best for you and I feel the reason that you guys are moving stuff up is because of a sickness in the family and that's something that is out of your control.

View Quoted Comment Majority of our guests arent traveling from out of state, only about 4 couples three being family members. The family members typically come in for Christmas so they would only be driving in a few days earlier but I get it might be pushing it.