His groomsmen can't pay for suit rental.....what to do?

It's almost a year away. They said yes, they need to plan. It's part of being an adult.

I feel like accepting the duty is understanding you have to pay for certain items, weather purchasing or renting. if you choose to do something less formal, let it be your choice and not a reaction to their situation. but my opinion is thats what they signed up for.

now that i see its a year away, they can save for it and plan accordingly. like Celia said they are adults. the bridesmaids will have to do the same thing.

Ok, I kinda thought the same thing. My fiance thinks I'm being snobby, just expecting everyone to be able to afford it. But I thought that was just what was expected when you accept being in the wedding.

It's almost a year away! My husband's and groomsmen's tuxes were $150 to rent. Surely the guys can save $15 a month. That's one less dinner out a month.

Good luck!

I bought a tie and jacket for the groomsmen they will be providing their own black pants, black shoes, and blue shirt (or need to buy these if they need to).

I found a good deal at thelees.com and found ties on some website I found while googling ties I liked.

Good luck! Hopefully they can save for the outfit or maybe you can find a compromise where they pay for a vest or something that is uniform but the rest is what they have in their closet.

As long as the outfit you're wanting them to buy is not outrageously priced, i think you're fine and not at all snobby. i have a gf who asked me to be a bridesmaid, but her BM dress was $560. needless to say i had to decline, she had 8 other girls so it worked out fine for her.

$560?? Yikes. That cost more than my wedding dress.

I bought my MOH's dress and I'm sucking it up and buying BM's clothes too. I can't even get him to get measurements. It better fit him like a glove when he gets here.

Nope, Im not asking for anything extravagant. The suit rentals would be around $120 each, which I thought was an average price. My bridesmaids dresses are around the same price and they all agreed that it was an ok price and knew it would be their cost to take care of

$560 for a bm dress? Yikes, I'd have to back out on that too LOL

Yea...its more than my dress too hahaha

I would pay for it if they can't afford it. To me, at least, it'd be more important to have my best friend at my side. Should they be able to save the money by then? Yes. But some people are on tighter budgets that people with more disposable income can't quite understand. I helped one MOH and one Bridesmaid pay for their dresses because I wanted them with me, not worrying about their rent AND a dress.

We paid for all our bridal party. Granted we aren't giving them gifts. My thought is you mean enough to me to stand up in my wedding least I can do is not give you an added expense.

I agree with everyone else who said they need to be adults, learn how to save a little money each week, and have that extra money available for suit rental.

When people say crap like this it makes me really mad because what I want to say is How do you save money to purchase things for Christmas or a birthday?" Or "How is it you always have money for a $180 cable bill and $115 a month for your phone, or $60 a month for your nails?" Yea, if they are griping now then maybe you should just count that as a decline on their behalf and find new groomsmen.

If he can't save $10/month, he shouldn't be in your wedding. And I'm not saying that to be mean. I just think that people with no money to spare should be making better use of their time.

I'm PMS-ragey, so don't mind me. But seriously. $10/month. That's two fraps at Starbucks. He should be able to handle it. Some people just aren't capable of it though.

I am not a huge fan of the matchy-matchy look, and I personally find rented clothing a little distasteful. I prefer the slightly varied look that says "we all just happen to own appropriate formal wear, so naturally we wore it to Joe's wedding" to the exact-match all-from-the-same-for-hire-shop look that says "we're all dressing in a style at odds with our lifestyle, to match Joe's fiancee's 'vision' even though it isn't really us."

I suspect bridesmaids are more willing to put up with the cost of standing up in a wedding, because they're thinking that's what they would want their bridesmaids to do for them in turn. The majority of groomsmen frankly aren't looking forward to their own weddings in that way, and don't have that vested tit-for-tat interest. They have money for a $180 cable bill because they prioritize, and their cable service is a higher priority than your wedding (and most of them aren't getting their nails done.) The sad fact is, except for you and your groom, nearly everyone has multiple priorities higher than your wedding.

Knowing your own priorities is part of being an adult. I'm willing to go so far as to say that owning a single-breasted very-dark grey suit; good for job interviews, funerals, church on Mother's day and weddings, including eventually your own; is also an attribute of an adult gentlemen. Being willing to focus on your mate's wedding for the next year to save up the money to blow on wearing a used suit for one evening ... I'm not sure that is essential behaviour for being considered an adult.

Carrie, in your shoes I would meet the guys halfway: tell them dark-grey single-breasted three-piece suit, and let them choose whether to buy one or rent one or (if they have already had to go to a job interview or funeral) go with the one they've already got. They won't "match", but they will look very sophisticated, and they get to choose how to spend their own money which will leave them happier to be supporting your husband, and less resentful of your husband's new wife.

I am a part time worker and a full time student that doesn't get much help with bills at all, if I can afford a wedding, you [the groomsman] can afford a suit.

EDIT-FH is not a deadbeat, was just unemployed and now working as of Sunday. Sorry if it sounded like I was implying you should buy the suit, I meant the GM

Aspasia - great post, totally agree!!

FH and I decided, even before asking his best man, that we would pay for his tux rental. He has recently gone through cancer treatment and finances are tough. He means so much to us that I wouldn't think of doing otherwise.

I can see good advice in a lot of the ladies answers. You can suggest they save for the proper attire, or get attendants that can afford to participate or be prepared to offer some sort of assistance with their .attire. I would ask FH how he feels about the situation and go from there...

I don't want to sound negative but is there a possibility they are using the tux cost as an excuse to not be in the wedding party? I agreed with other posters to put aside $15 a month for a year is not difficult. It makes me think there is more to it. Or maybe they just rather not spend the money even if they could afford it.

I also want to note if you meet them halfway or decide to foot the bill altogether, be prepared for the other wedding party members to be disgruntled.