His family isn’t coming

My husband and I were in a similar boat for our wedding. Things got ugly between DH and his mother and she was uninvited from our wedding, which caused a lot of ruffled feathers on her side of the family. They still attended, but you could tell some of them were rather hostile. One relative tried to bring it up to DH during our reception and he said he wasn't going to talk about it on his wedding day. I completely understand how you're feeling, when you're in a situation where there's nothing you can do to make things better and you just hate how much your FH is hurting. All you can do is be there for him and be supportive. I'm sure your family loves him and he'll see that he's being welcomed into a happy family like yours. My family stuck around at our wedding while most of his left and my parents especially made him feel very loved and very much a part of our family. Your wedding day will still be happy and your FH will still enjoy every bit of it. Just love on him a little extra if he needs it in the days leading up to your wedding and encourage your family to really show him how much they're there for the two of you.

My FH’s mom and sister announced that they would not be coming. They’ve since come around, but FH was devastated. So much so that when I found him I thought someone had died. My family was great, but you’re right, it’s not the same. Basically all you can do is be there for your FS and remind him that he’s right to be hurt and upset and that those feelings are very valid. I don’t think he’ll look back on your wedding day with sadness. I think he’ll remember all those people who loved and support him unconditionally even if those people didn’t include his biological family.

If your FH is like me, he knows this is typical of his family and may not even be surprised by their choices. My family is exactly like this and the running joke with my FH is that my dad may not even come. All you can do is make sure to listen to him and reassure him that your family loves and supports him.

We're in a similar situation. FH and I are having a super small wedding. Suppose to be just parents plus his only grandparent, and only close friends. FH and his mom doesn't have a relationship due to a falling out with me years ago. As a grown woman, I still invitited her to the wedding even though FH told her a year ago she would not be attending. Long story short, she declined the invite and now his grandmother is in the hospital and also can't attend. We don't really care about his mom, however, the only person on his side of the family who can and will attend is his father. I feel so bad for him. We look at it as, those who want to be there to show support and share our special day with us, will be there. Those who don't, we can't stress over and certainly don't want to pressure into going. (Grandmother totally different story). I'm writing him a letter for the day of to remind him how much hes loved and how nobody else matters to our relationship except each other and our little girl. Also bought him a locket with a picture of his grandparents who have passed away. He's very close with all grandparents. So I wanted something special to remind him they still remain in his heart on such a huge time in his life. He says he doesn't care that things are like this, but it still has to be a burden knowing your family dislikes your spouse to this extent. All I can do is shower him with love

I'm so sorry 💔 that's sad. I kind of understand. I have a huge happy family and only 2 aren't able to come, and they're all from Connecticut! My FH... I think just his parents and brother will be there. His one aunt and mom's mom live in Germany and aren't able to come. They are estranged from his dad's side of the family..though they actually did send an invite to his dad's mom. I feel bad that I have more family attending then him. Just be kind and patient and loving and affirm that he is loved by many people! Your wedding day will be so special