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Elissa
Beginner March 2014

His ex girlfriend is trying to get some attention now that he's getting married. What should I do?

Elissa, on May 4, 2014 at 2:23 PM

Posted in Planning 30

Turns out that my FH's ex girlfriend dumped him after a three year relationship with him. Then a year passed and my FH started dating me. As soon as she found out she added him on facebook as a friend and she's acting very friendly with him. They are now friends but no more than that. But she has...

Turns out that my FH's ex girlfriend dumped him after a three year relationship with him. Then a year passed and my FH started dating me. As soon as she found out she added him on facebook as a friend and she's acting very friendly with him. They are now friends but no more than that. But she has called him sometimes knowing that he's in a relationship with me and she invited him to her birthday party, and asks him to hang out with some her and some of their common friends. I met her one time because my FH and I were hanging out with some people and she was there. And she kept talking to him in front of me. We were at an ice-cream shop and she said: "Can I try some of your ice-cream?" WTF??? My FH doesn't have feelings for her anymore but it seems like now she regrets leaving him, especially now that we're getting married because she knows it. She even called him on New Years Eve knowing that he was probably out with me having dinner. FH didn't answer but it was her on the called ID.

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  • A
    VIP August 2014
    Anonymous ·
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    I agree with everyone else. You FH should have deleted her and cut her off a long time ago. If he has no feeling for her it shouldn't be hard. She sounds like a piece of work.

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  • Elissa
    Beginner March 2014
    Elissa ·
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    This might sound immature, but I would LOVE to wait for my FH to delete her. That way when he posts the wedding pictures on facebook and he changes his relationship status, she will explode!! At the end, I know my FH loves me so he won't go back with her even if she's being stubborn like a little girl.

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  • MrsKAllTheWay
    Super October 2012
    MrsKAllTheWay ·
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    I don't even think it's necessarily that she has feelings for him, I just think she just feels insecure (sounds like she's not getting married...) and wants attention. Clearly he chose you and doesn't seem to want to feed into her need for attention, but honestly he needs to unfriend her. No reason I can see that you should be friends with your EX (unless you have kids together).

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  • Maureen
    Devoted October 2026
    Maureen ·
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    Elissa, I like your plan to wait until you both post pictures then delete and block her and make sure she can't see your accounts in case she tries to look from a different account. Yeah its obvious she's jealous and that ice cream incident was to prove to herself and you that they still have history and she will always have had him first before you. Right now she's probably hoping you two will break up and marriage won't take place then she can swoop in and "console" him. So let her keep seeking attention. She needs to see those wedding pictures so it finally sinks in he's really taken and moved on. Yeah she might wish for divorce but that's on her. Its going to take her long time to move on. Another reason to get your fiancee to stop being friends with her. She can't move on if they are always talking or meeting in same social circles. Good luck.

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  • Beth
    Super August 2014
    Beth ·
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    Don't say anything to her and stay real classy with it! I would ask FH to remove her from FB friend list and block phone & FB from her. Also ask him to not allow any further communication with the ex. Let him know that it hurts you to see her doing this.

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  • We'llAlwaysHaveParis
    Master November 2013
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    I think all 3 of you are enjoying this drama.

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  • Mrs. A Fernandez
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    Mrs. A Fernandez ·
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    First of all, he never should have "friended" her on FB... When she sees you two or even him out alone, a friendly hello is one thing, but full conversations is a "No Go"!!! The disrespect of her calling him and innapropriate suggestions of trying his icecream.... Chile I am a fool, and she is coming for the love that you two share. He needs to first of all "defriend" her, and check her thoroughly for disrespecting you and the relationship that you two share. I would have "Read" her on her first strike... that's just me:-)

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  • Mrs. A Fernandez
    Super May 2015
    Mrs. A Fernandez ·
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    The ex is displaying very careless, flamboyant behavior, and should have been stopped. And furthermore, your man should be checked as well for even conversing with her long enough for her to open that door to disrespect you. When she sees you two out, she must keep it movin'!

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  • Mrs. A Fernandez
    Super May 2015
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    You can spit fire, with class honey, but all of this foolishness should never have begun.

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  • Emily
    Super October 2021
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    I agree with Paris. If FH didn't enjoy all this attention from his ex, he would've unfriended her a long time ago. He needs to unfriend and block her immediately. Shame on him for letting this go on as long as it has.

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