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Liz
Savvy August 2021

Hike between cocktail hour and dinner?

Liz, on January 11, 2020 at 4:54 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 11

My FH and I are having a small wedding (~35 people) at the state park where we had our first date. We originally wanted to have the ceremony at the base of the park's waterfall, which requires a 1.5 mile hike (round trip). Since some guests would not be able to hike and it would be tricky to provide seating, we decided to have the ceremony by the lake across the street instead (I know, poor us).

However, we've walked the trail to this waterfall once a week for 3 years and we still want it to be part of our wedding. We're considering doing our "first hike as a married couple" between cocktail hour and dinner, inviting any guests who wish to come along. 95% of our guests have not seen the waterfall before and we'd really like to share it.

My concern is for those who stay behind. I don't want any mobility-impaired guests to feel excluded, and I might be able to accommodate them with a golf cart or something. Whatever happens, I feel that there will still be a small handful of people who choose to stay at the reception site. It seems awkward for the majority of the wedding to leave a few people behind, and I don't want them to be twiddling their thumbs feeling that they're missing all the fun. Any suggestions?


11 Comments

Latest activity by MrsD, on January 13, 2020 at 11:42 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I honestly don’t know how this could be worked in and I think you’re underestimating how few guests are going to want to go for a hike in their wedding attire. Could you make the hike during cocktail hour to take your first photos as a married couple?
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    Can you do it the following morning? That seems like a better idea than having people go for a hike in wedding clothes. Women in heels would not be too happy lol, and everyone will be all sweaty...
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  • Nikki
    Devoted April 2021
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    I agree with the second poster, I’d plan a hike the next day. You could do it post brunch (if you’re having one), but at least that way you don’t have to worry about timing or guest who don’t want to do it
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    As a guest I wouldn’t want to take a hike in my nice clothes and shoes. Since it’s something special for the two of you maybe do it the next morning.
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    Unless your guests are all relatively active hiking enthusiasts, who will be dressed very casually (including their shoes), I wouldn't do this during the wedding. However, I think you might have some other options. Depending on your timeline for the wedding day, perhaps you could invite anyone who wants to attend, to an early morning hike to kick-off of the day (if there will be PLENTY of time after for getting ready) or as others suggested, make it an option for the next morning, possibly before or after a group send-off breakfast. Congrats on finding such a meaningful location for your wedding!

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  • A
    Devoted October 2020
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    My fiancée and I are doing something similar! We’ve chosen to do a just-us walk as a way of having a quiet first moment together as a married couple. Maybe you could do that?
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    I agree with Gen. I would offer this the following day. As a guest, I would never participate in something like this! People typically go to weddings in their nice clothes and shoes, they won’t want to hike in them...
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  • Liz
    Savvy August 2021
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    The few guests I've talked to so far have seemed "game," but everyone's hesitations are understandable. I would really rather go with just my fiancée and the photographer while encouraging out-of-town guests to go earlier that day or the day prior. And since I will be with my family all weekend it would be nice to have an excuse for some private time...


    I was already leaning this way but my fiancée wanted to include everyone. Now that I feel a bit more confident that it won't work I will push harder to have it my way. Smiley winking

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  • Diane
    August 2020
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    I think it might be ok if there were cocktails and hors d’oeuvres for people that stayed back, otherwise I’d save the hike for another time.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Like others have said, if you want the photos there I’d do either first look photos before the ceremony, or just the two of you during cocktail hour (while the rest of guests go enjoy snacks and drinks). It seems awkward to split up guests and not really wedding appropriate.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I like the idea another bride said of doing it the day before or the day after instead.

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