He’s taking My last name!

There are a lot of things you can do on the day. Your officiant can introduce you as "The (YourLastName)s" or "Mr. & Mrs. YourLastName" at the end of the ceremony. You can also have a neon sign with your last name as part of the decor. Beforehand will be trickier. You can maybe have a wedding hashtag that uses your last name.

On your website, typically you put in your names to be displayed at the top of the site, so I would do Anna and XXX YourLastName or The Future YourLastName. You can put in in FAQs as well. Something like, Q: how should we address gifts/cards? A: Mr. And Mrs. YourLastName
You could take a cute photo of you guys holding a sign that says Mr. and Mrs. YourLastName, and put that as the main website photo.
Lastly, when sending STDs and Invites, you can have the return address be "The soon-to-be Mr. And Mrs. YourLastName". This one is kinda subtle and not everyone will notice it though

I think any of those could be a good way to "announce" it!

I don't see the point in making an announcement beforehand. You're almost treating this like a public apology or warning. You don't have to explain or justify this to anyone.


Most wedding invites list your names are they currently are. Tell the DJ how you want to be announced. You wouldn't be Mr. And Mrs., since you're keeping your last name, unless that is how you want to be addressed.
I kept my last name and have never felt the need to give anyone a heads up. If there's going to be backlash, it's going to be there whether the news is fresh or not. Most guests will be addressing you by your first names, this may not even come up.

The less you make a big deal of it, the less the guests can. Someone is bound to get it wrong. Guests have been assuming the woman's name will be changed for ages. It's not a big deal.
The only real reason this matters if your guests are prone to writing checks for gifts and they might put his last name for the both of you. If that happens, I'd to to the bank together and show your ID and marriage license.

View Quoted Comment I never thought of it that way! I come from a super judgmental family so I think defense is my default but man you’re so right. I’m so at the point of not caring what people say. You really helped put this into perspective. Thank you!

I just wanted to say i think it's cool he's taking your last name. so often we see the woman take the man's last name and not the other way around so i thought that was cool!

i didn't take my husband's last name haha but most of my married friends if not all of them, really took their husband's.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! He has a very strained relationship with his daily so he decided he wants nothing to do with them, including their name. We also have two daughters with my last name so it’ll be easier all around for him to change his name.

Why is he taking your last name

Just wanted to hop on and say how cool this is!! You rarely see the man taking the woman’s last name- I applaud your fiancé on his progressiveness!

View Quoted Comment He doesn’t have a good relationship with his family and decided he doesn’t want any connection to them even in the form of a last name. We also have two daughters who have my last name and he didn’t want us all to have to change our names. He’s truly such a beautiful and considerate man but very sensitive so my fear is he will get upset over negative backlash but we’re trying to remain firm and positive in our choices