Help!!!recommends please.

I would first check with your vendors to find out if postponing again is an option. If so, I would postpone to at least 2022. Otherwise, if not, are you able to downsize your guest list further, and offer a virtual option? You could always do a small ceremony in January, and do a larger reception once the pandemic is over.

Check with your venue/venders to see what your options are.

View Quoted Comment Our wedding party and guest list isn't actually all to big. No more than 65 people for our guest list with the reception be open after dinner and even then only like 10 maybe 15 more would come even that. I'm calling all vendors this week. I wish we hadn't paid the venue in full already. Losing the deposit wouldn't have been so bad..

Honestly, January is going to be a mess. I would see if your venue has a summer weekday available...assuming they don’t have a weekend open at this time.

View Quoted Comment I agree with Lisa. We are eloping, now, to a destination that is fairly covid free, will live stream our wedding to family, and then have our reception at a later date.

View Quoted Comment Makes sense. At least you have a smaller guest list! That would help with social distancing if you don't end up postponing. I would definitely check with your vendors first, they might be willing to let you postpone again, it does not hurt to ask. I would also suggest having a conversation with your fiance to come up with a plan just in case the vendors won't let you postpone.

Definitely talk to both your venue and vendors to see if they are okay with postponing. Hopefully they are!

Check to see your options. Best scenario is to downsize significantly

If your jobs.. Find out??? Are you planning to lie about having a 65 person event to get out of the (possibly legally required) 2 week quarantine? This is how people get sick. My advice is, whatever you do, follows the guidelines and rules. Don't lie and worry about being found out.

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Thats not at all what I meant by that and there is no need to attack me for it. All I used was a bad choice of words. All I meant was that our job might make us quarantine. In our county we don't have anything currently be enforced for restrictions. You don't know where I am from and what its like in our area. Our venue has been having weddings much bigger than us and that was when there was 25% percent capacity restriction going on which is around 300. With very strict rules and restrictions that have to be followed.

View Quoted Comment You are right that I don't know any of that- all I can do is reply based on what you wrote. I didn't mean to attack you, I gave advice based on what was written. I even asked if that was what you meant and advised that, whatever choice you make, you follow your areas guidelines/rules and avoid the stress of any secrets (if that was the case.) Which, imo, is solid advice for any situation and not at all attacking. Good luck with your planning and I hope you have a lovely wedding.


I know COVID is difficult, I have also postponed along with my entire life changing and being put on hold. I get it. My other advice is check with vendors asap about your concerns, only they will know if they'll let you postpone again- maybe not for free but at a much lesser cost than losing all that money entirely, definitely worth asking. Mine will for only $500 for all vendors and it is also package deal.