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I don't think that is selfish at all. I would sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel and maybe bring up a realistic timeline for a baby. Maybe a honeymoon baby would be a compromise?

Buy him a What to Expect When You're Expecting book and tell him that you will revisit this discussion when he finishes reading it. That should buy you some time and give him a little perspective.

How is that selfish? You’re the one carrying and birthing the child, not him. Tell him you want to wait until after the wedding and that’s that.

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Girl! They really don't but he'll be fine. Lol. Good luck.

I told my FH the same thing! I do not want to be pregnant while walking down the aisle, AND I want to be able to enjoy myself (morning sickness, no alcohol, etc.) and I DO NOT think that is being selfish at all being that it is OUR bodies going through that transition. You both need to be on board for having a baby or else it will turn into a mess and a not-so-pleasant experience.

I discussed with my FH and he understood. Now we only have 113 days until the wedding!

Hubby and I both wanted a baby really bad but we wanted to wait until we were married. It just felt right to wait.
It's not selfish to wait. I'm sure you'd want to be able to enjoy your wedding day and have a couple drinks!

You’re not being selfish, you’re the one that has to carry the baby. I love the PPs suggestion to give him What to Expect! I would never choose to be pregnant on my wedding day and every pregnancy is different- my mom was nauseous all day every day throughout the entire pregnancy (so grateful I didn’t get that), with my son I had horrible acid reflux every day and really had to watch what I ate (NO spicy food at all which is my favorite), with my daughter I was told to keep my stress down because of medical issues (planning a wedding would have been a no-go).
You want to (and deserve to be able to) enjoy your wedding day, that’s not selfish. Also, I fully plan to enjoy a few drinks at my wedding since I’m paying for them. I drink very rarely, but I want to be able to enjoy the reception with all our friends and family.

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Frankly I think it's selfish of him to ask that of you! Tell him to calm down and wait until you're married, it's not like he's waiting forever. You should enjoy your wedding and your baby as they happen instead of stressing out about both at the same time. If you both want a baby try for a honeymoon baby. Besides doesn't he like sleep? Or drinking? A man's sperm is effected by that too, he should be staying sober and taking daily vitamins if you're delibrately trying. Surely he'd rather have a bachelor party and a glass of wine during the wedding.

Well it comes down to what is most important for the two of you. Whatever you decide I'm sure it will all work out

Awwww, I just posted something about this, my wedding date was for MAY 2020 and we just pushed it to JULY 2020., because we just found out we are expecting a baby, I'm due in March 2020. LOL

So I have about 4 months to work on my body before the wedding. But anywho if you do get preggers, its Gods Plan. You will be just fine, I've seen some beautiful pregnant brides or if anything happens just push the wedding back.

Good Luck Dear. :-)

In addition to everything said above, point out that you want your entire focus to be on your baby when you get pregnant. Planning a wedding will take away from that. May is really not long to wait. And if you do want to start trying directly after the wedding, it gives you a few months to start taking prenatals to get your body better prepared for le baby.

FH was like that too when we first got engaged. We will end up with a 20 month engagement by the end of it and I basically told him he had until November 2019 to make a woops-a-baby (even though I never "pulled the goalie") but after that it was off the table cause I was not about to be prego for my wedding either. Anyway, woops-a-baby never happened (and I'm secretly relieved) and now its extra precautions until the wedding lol

I don't think that's selfish. I mean after all, I can't see why it can't be after your wedding

My son was a honeymoon baby(1st marriage). My FH and I just had a baby almost a year ago. She was a total surprise( he was told he couldn't have children). He hasn't officially proposed yet due to several reasons, one being that he doesn't want people to think we are getting married just because we had a baby. Our wedding is still 2 years away. It's definitely not selfish to wait. Both my pregnacies were hard(my second an emergency c section 3 weeks early) we are officially done having kids(had surgery 2 months ago) now we are focused on getting back into shape for the wedding.