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What Sarah said. Also, stop involving people in wedding discussions that are clearly stressing you out. Are either of them contributing to the wedding financially?

If they don't get an outfit for the wedding, they'll be the ones that look silly (unless they've got formalwear lying around, which is entirely possible). A bride friend's mom got a nice dress about a week before her wedding - all was well. Letting these things stress you out is no worth it in any way, shape, or form.

Your MIL can dress herself, you shouldn't be involved in that at all. She doesn't need to wear certain styles or colors, so just forget about that stress. If your mom is helping pay, unfortunately you probably have to listen to some of her opinions, but if not, just stop telling her details or asking for her opinions. Book what you want and she can deal with it.

1) Your MIL can pick her own dress, and there is plenty of time left. Cross that off your list of things to worry about. She's an adult; she's got it. My wedding is in 3 days and I honestly have no idea what my mom is wearing, but I know she found a dress she loves and is excited about. 2) Stop sharing wedding details with your mom. It really stinks, but she's proven that she can't productively participate in those conversations, so keep the details to yourself and it will give her less to focus on and/or worry about. She just needs to know when to show up, what role she will play (i.e. walking in the processional, etc.) and that's pretty much it.

Don’t share plans with them. Are you paying for it yourselves or getting help? Return any ‘ gifts’ of money and have a wedding without financial assistance. Set boundaries and maintain them. Mother in law can dress herself and it’s too early to buy one anyway.

Yes, we have been offered "gifts" of money but, it is becoming more of a conflict. Sometimes I think it s a trap. I guess she feels an "obligation" to pay, as my mother is definitely a traditional type of person. And it is not that her and my father cannot afford it but, there is something else to it. After speaking with her this week about flowers I decided to go ahead and order a part of them myself instead of again bringing this topic up to her. It felt great knowing I could dodge that bullet and honestly many others.

Yes, we have been offered "gifts" of money but, it is becoming more of a conflict. Sometimes I think it s a trap. I guess she feels an "obligation" to pay, as my mother is definitely a traditional type of person. And it is not that her and my father cannot afford it but, there is something else to it. After speaking with her this week about flowers I decided to go ahead and order a part of them myself instead of again bringing this topic up to her. It felt great knowing I could dodge that bullet and honestly many others.

Yes, we have been offered "gifts" of money but, it is becoming more of a conflict. Sometimes I think it s a trap. I guess she feels an "obligation" to pay, as my mother is definitely a traditional type of person. And it is not that her and my father cannot afford it but, there is something else to it. After speaking with her this week about flowers I decided to go ahead and order a part of them myself instead of again bringing this topic up to her. It felt great knowing I could dodge that bullet and honestly many others.

Yes, we have been offered "gifts" of money but, it is becoming more of a conflict. Sometimes I think it s a trap. I guess she feels an "obligation" to pay, as my mother is definitely a traditional type of person. And it is not that her and my father cannot afford it but, there is something else to it. After speaking with her this week about flowers I decided to go ahead and order a part of them myself instead of again bringing this topic up to her. It felt great knowing I could dodge that bullet and honestly many others.