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I think it really depends on the situation and what this friend did to you. If they were very disrespectful, volatile in some sort of way, then the first thing I'd probably want to do is talk to them about the situation you guys find yourself in. If you don't really care for the friendship to move forward, then it wouldn't be horrid to not send them an invitation. This isn't the same situation as you probably, but I had someone in my life that I really considered a very good friend. SO good, that I would have made her a bridesmaid if her and I were still on speaking terms. In October of 2016 she just cold turkey stopped speaking with me, for literally no reason. It was very strange and bizarre. I tried reaching out to her MANY times and the excuse she always gave was that she's busy with her two kids. Well heck, I have 2 kids as well, and I still find the time to reach out, send a simple text to those I care about. So I didn't buy her reasons. Many times during my wedding planning, I contemplated messaging her and inviting her to the wedding, but I decided against it. I now see where our friendship stands, and she was not sent any information pertaining to our wedding, and probably isn't aware I'm even getting married. I don't wish to maintain a friendship like that where someone cuts me off and is not able to communicate with me. Pretty much does a full 180 on me when all I've done was be there for her when she needed me. In your situation, you've already sent a save the date but all is not lost. You don't need negative, toxic or hurtful people to be in attendance at your wedding. I would say in this situation, as long as you do not wish to salvage this friendship or you feel like you're being threatened or something similar, it would not be bad at all to not send an invitation. But think about your friendship first. I would say talk to this person first and see if you can get some insight into why they are treating you the way that they are. If the person is constantly ignoring, being rude or dismissive, I would not send an invite at that point.

I agree with the PPs, if you feel the friendship is 100% over, then don't send one! If there is still a sliver of chance you two could work it out, not sending an invite will end the friendship.