Help!

Nothing wrong with you at all! People can be very overwhelming when they know someone is wedding planning. I used to get so frustrated because literally every time someone talked to me at work, they asked about the wedding. It was cute at first and I know they're just trying to be nice, but I was so tired of being asked. Now everyone is saying "how's married life", can't wait for that to be old news too lol.

I would just have a discussion with your fiancé on what the two of you want. If your fiancé loves the destination elopement idea too, you should absolutely do it! Your engagement, your wedding, and your marriage should be about what makes the two of you happy

Super common. Once you’re engaged people get really interested about what your plans are and people get really opinionated too

Honestly, just shut down the conversation and don't share wedding planning details.

"We haven't started yet. How's everything going with you?"

"No decisions thusfar. How's your mom?"

And when the time comes, "we're eloping, actually. Want some more bread?"

You can plan however you like, and if you want to elope, definitely go for it.

View Quoted Comment It doesn't help that we live in Memphis but the rest of our families are scattered between like 5 different states so that's another reason I'm just having a hard time wrapping my head around the whole thing.


I'm so glad that I'm not crazy for feeling this way! Lol

I also forgot to add that we live in Memphis and the rest of our families are scattered all over the east coast which makes it that much harder to accommodate everyone.

There are a ton of choices when planning a wedding for sure. I'd decide your budget and your "must invite" guest list, then discuss what time of year & location you both are thinking. You may have to look at a lot of options but it's better to keep in between you and your fiance first, then bring in family & friends and tell them what you've decided AFTER you have decided so you don't have to deal with everyone's opinions.

I would get this in the very beginning of us being engaged and it also drove me crazy! Especially when I would tell people we haven’t started any planning. We wanted to enjoy it before we started planning. It took us 2 months just to decide on a guest lists. Just take your time 😊

The day we got engaged people started asking about the wedding date! 🤣 Just tell people you are going to enjoy being engaged for a while. You and your fiancé can talk over what aspects of a wedding are most important as well as your budget. It can get overwhelming quick, and that’s why it’s so important to dial in on what you and your fiancé care about most in a wedding.

Yup. I promise it calms down after a bit, people just get super excited. I remember getting so upset that I wasn’t super excited at first that I was engaged and it was because people were putting so much stress on me to decide things. I just told everyone to back off and we would do what we want. Now we’ve got most of our vendors booked and we still have a year and a half to go. It was SO frustrating for me though when it was all happening!

Just ignore all of those other opinions and tell them you’ll send them invites when you’re ready! We actually waited 9 months after we got engaged to begin planning because I was dreading the planning process. Then in the space of 1 month, I got 70% of the planning done and got 2 dresses for the wedding. People kept asking me for a date during the whole time and I just said we haven’t decided yet. They’ll get over it when they receive invites.