My fiancé and I are in the midst of wedding planning. We saved money and planes and INSISTED we pay for the wedding. We knew everything from our venue (we have a barn on our property that we are using) food, drinks, number of guests, cupcakes, decorations... list goes on. We had a set plan. His father and his long term girlfriend of 20 years tried giving us money. We politely declined MULTIPLE times. Christmas came a long and they gave us a $5000 check as a gift. We tried to give it back to them and they literally argued and felt insulted we wouldn’t take it. My fiancé ended up taking the check ONLY to shut them up. He planned on taking it and them writing him a check for the $5000 at a later date, returning it. Now that we took the money, they COMPLETELY bombarded our wedding planning.
FIRST: I want individual cupcakes and B (long term girlfriend) tried to tell me not to have cupcakes. I told them I didn’t want a large wedding cake. So then she insisted that she has someone who makes them and that they will make them. I said no, I already booked out baker. SECOND: she told a family friend who is a photographer that she would be shooting our wedding. I love the photographer as a person, but I personally am not a fan of her work at all. I already have mine booked and said that was that.
THIRD: she booked a tasting with a caterer and told them what food she thought I wanted and made them a “day of schedule” to follow. I lost my fricken mind. FOURTH: I had plans for a fully stocked open bar. My family is big with tequila and martinis and I wanted those to be options. They BOOKED A BARTENDER FOR ONLY BEER AND WINE WITHOUT CONSULTING US. Then just continued to say how it’s better to have only beer and wine. FIFTH: We had an aunt who wanted to be involved and she is an amazing cook and she asked us if she could cook for the rehearsal dinner. We sat down with her and made a plan and had everything figured out. His dad and B nipped that in the bud and cooked a room at a local restaurant/party hall. SIXTH: They told all their friends (most of which my fiancé and I have never met or heard of) that they were invited. They bullied my fiancé into inviting OVER 200 MORE PEOPLE TO OUR WEDDING. OUR BARN ONLY FITS 280. We had already invited 250 people. Our wedding list is now 450 people. I am sick. SEVENTH: They asked what day my bridal shower would be convenient. I work full time and go to school so my schedule is hectic. I told them the specific date of Saturday August 1st and they all told me know and proceed to plan it the day after my birthday on June 27th AT OUR HOUSE. My wedding is end of September. I have a trip planned for my birthday and will be out of town the day they planned the shower for. Told them to enjoy themselves, as I would not be there and would want the August date. They changed it to the week before my birthday, June 20th....
Smaller issues, B has issues with tattoos and 2 of my bridesmaids and I have tattoos which will show during the wedding and she continues to make rude remarks about covering them up. Mind you, they are not sleeves or neck tats. I have one on my back that will show along with the other two girls.
I am at a loss of what to do. I am days away from canceling the wedding and getting eloped. I cannot deal. Does anyone have any suggestions or literally anything.
Thanks ❤️❤️
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