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Most people will tell you that you do not ask for cash. Your guests should get the hint that you want cash, not gifts.

I would not do a registry and hopefully people will give you that but there is no nice way to request that.

View Quoted Comment I worded that wrong I meant as for money for the honeymoon fund

Gifts of any kind aren’t mentioned in a wedding invitation. If you’re having a honeymoon fund you can link that on your wedding website or tell people if they ask.

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Oh lol. I think there are site or if you are doing a certain honeymoon they can put money towards activities but I would not take money towards the honeymoon. Technically something you and the FH should fund.

View Quoted Comment What’s a wedding website sorry I’m new to this and it’s totally different now then it was I’m just trying to learn my mom is way outta date with this stuff and my sister same sooo I just wanted some ideas.

View Quoted Comment Yea sorry it was to late to fix what I said and I didn’t know how to delete and remake a post still learning 🤣🤣🤣 that’s awesome though I didn’t even know you could start a honeymoon fund online . Back in my parents days there was money dances and I just don’t wanna do a money dance

View Quoted Comment A wedding website is a site where you can put your wedding info, hotel accommodations, registry information, and can also have people RSVP thru. Most people put the website address on their save the dates and invitations. WeddingWire, the knot, Zola, minted and others have wedding website templates that you can make yours on.

View Quoted Comment Is okay to just send it out to people once you’ve created a site since my save the dates and everything are already out ?!!

View Quoted Comment Yeah! I would send it to people individually rather than post it on social media. And include it with your invitations.

Tell people that you don't really need anything but a donation to your honeymoon fund would be appreciated. I've been thinking about doing something similar. I've been thinking about having a registry with some things but I feel like everyone does cash gifts now.

We sent our digital STDs and included the info about monetary gifts. On the back of our invitations we included a cute poem that ultimately tells them we want money just in a cute way. Lol. I personally don’t see the difference between doing a registry and asking for the things we want/need and telling people we prefer cash...either they are going to do it or not. Our ultimate goal is to share our day with the people (family and friends) we love most. They know us well enough that know we are combining homes and monetary gifts/honeymoon fund is the most sensible for us. I know my opinion isn’t a very popular one. Lol

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your input and no it’s great I’m loving all the feedback !

View Quoted Comment That’s a great idea too I know we already have so much I’m like nooo more stuff

View Quoted Comment I love your idea! Hope you don't mind if I borrow it? 😂🤷🏿‍♀️

This is how we did ours because we already love together.. hopefully mine helps

I created a new home fund on our website on The Knot. I'm not specifically telling anyone, but I will probably put the website on the invitations and when they go to my registry, they'll see it. And if people come out and ask about our registry, I do bring up the new home fund.
I do recommend even doing a small registry. Picking things out is fun too! Some older people are very traditional and just have to bring something. Also, I put cheap things on mine. Someone may be able to only afford $20, but they may feel better giving you a gift than giving you $20 in cash.

View Quoted Comment Not at all ❤️❤️❤️

Potentially, for some guests, there is absolutely no way to say this politely. It is quite possible some guests will find any "suggestion" that they should give cash gifts very rude, and for those guests, there is no "poem" that makes it better. On the safe side, the suggestion would be to have a small registry or say NOTHING and let guests give what they choose to. In MANY cases, they will give cash gifts and NOT potentially be insulted by direct requests. Clearly, a couple can do whatever they want, but may want to recognize some recipients of their very direct requests may find their approach offensive.

View Quoted Comment I’ve also been considering this- I thought of setting up a small registry, but we’ve been together 5 years and we have most everything we need, so I was thinking of wording it as “we are registered at “xyz”, however we’ve acquired most necessities over the years, please consider gifting towards our honey fund” and if I set up a specific honeymoon website, I’ll link that. I’m not sure if I will do that but just an idea for you !