Help!

I guess it depends how deep into the planning you are. October of this year is pretty soon if you are using a venue and various vendors it might be hard to move the date and secure another one this year without losing any money. If you move the date will the other 2 groomsmen be able to make it, I guess it depends on how important it is to have this brother and the other groomsmen present. Ultimately though the decision is for you and partner to agree on , don't let anyone else make you feel bad about it or doubt it. Best of luck to you!

What does your fiancé think? We pushed our date back two months just so my fiancé brother could attend. I wasn’t happy about it, but we did it and it actually worked out better with us changing it. If you do not want to change it I’d recommend having a conversation with your husband to see what the best solution would be. I hope it all works out!

Did you just decide the date? Your post reads like that's the case. If so, I'd be hurt as a sibling because I'd want to be there but it's short notice.

Since it’s your fiancé‘s brother, and groomsmen, I would leave that decision up to him. If it’s important for him to have these people attend, then I would choose another date.

That's 3 months away. How far along are you in planning? If dates are reserved and things are in place, then I'd say no, don't move the dates. Since this affects your fiance primarily, then I'd seriously consider what he wants to do, but at this late date, I'd be inclined to stick with it. His brother will just have to decide who is more important, his brother or a friend.

If dates haven't been reserved yet, then you might be better off moving the date, since it might be difficult to reserve things this close to October.

I agree with some of the previous posters. How long ago did you choose your date, and have you already booked and signed contracts for the venue and vendors? Did the friends and brother already have these other commitments scheduled when you first told them the date, or did they commit to your date then back out later on?