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Future Mrs. Lowder, on February 16, 2020 at 4:03 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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I apologize in advance if this post is long. I’m not sure what to do with this situation so any ideas would be great! When FH and I first got engaged we weren’t sure where we wanted to hold our wedding but I knew I wanted a rustic theme so a cabin or barn would work best. We chose to ask his family’s permission to use their family cabin and they all said yes. Now that we’re in full swing of wedding planning it seems like everything is trying to prevent us from actually using the cabin for our wedding. First FH told everyone there would be no alcohol and everyone basically told us “no”. Which is understandable considering it’s their cabin but it’s also our wedding day. Then the area we chose to hold the ceremony isn’t working out on top of all of the other things that have been happening. I’m honestly just to the point where I just want to go to the courthouse, which we’ve discussed. If we choose to do that how do we let everyone know? There’s so many things going on that I’m just so confused and not even sure what I want to do anymore. Any advice/suggestions?

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Latest activity by Kristen, on February 16, 2020 at 4:33 PM

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Caytlyn · on February 16, 2020 at 4:08 PM
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You would let them know the same way that you told them you were getting married at the cabin before. It's not really clear what you're asking. Do you need help telling them that you're no longer using the cabin? That they aren't invited to the courthouse ceremony? That they are invited?
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Gen · on February 16, 2020 at 4:19 PM
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I would suggest not hosting it at their cabin if you don’t want to follow their rules. Why can’t you rent another cabin?
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Kristen · on February 16, 2020 at 4:20 PM
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Did you send official invites? I think it sounds like your idea of a wedding is not how it is panning out yes? If so, you two should have the wedding you want so I would just let them know like Caytlyn said that you have decided to use a different venue. It seems like using their venue they will feel they have a say in your wedding. You two want the wedding your way then I would choose your own venue and pay for it. Look before canceling in case nothing avail. Also, if the wedding planning is stressful I would not have an extensive guest list.
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Future Mrs. Lowder · on February 16, 2020 at 4:21 PM
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We’re trying to figure out what to do. We are at odds about whether or not to use the cabin. We are having a very low budget wedding and another venue will be way too expensive.
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Rebelle Fleur · on February 16, 2020 at 4:22 PM
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If your budget allows why not try to find a venue or another friend/family member with a large piece of land.
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Rebelle Fleur · on February 16, 2020 at 4:23 PM
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You can do a local or National park to stay consistent with your rustic theme.
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Kristen · on February 16, 2020 at 4:33 PM
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Yes I would go the park route and I am sure you can rent a cabin for a good price but you would have to see if they would let you host a party there. Do you have friends or family with an apartment or neighborhood clubhouse you could hold the reception? I think you need to sit down with the fiance and just come up with a nice way to let his family know we decided to use another venue for the wedding. If they ask why then maybe be straight forward and tell them the truth or just say that the place you have found is the vision you have for your wedding. Keep the guest list low to stay within budget.
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