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Cierra
Beginner October 2020

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Cierra, on May 30, 2020 at 9:58 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 40
Hi I’m a 10/10/20 Georgia bride. I’ve been fighting with the decision of whether to postpone/cancel/ modify our wedding. I have a wedding dress, made deposits on venue, food, and photography. Not to mention, all of my bridal party has purchased their dresses. I have also sent out save the dates. Although I still have some time before October, I don’t feel comfortable holding a 75-100 person event knowing that some family have already made decisions not to come during this pandemic and knowing I have family that have been personally infected by the virus. I feel like everybody’s health is more important but I can’t help think about all the money, emotions, and effort I have poured into planning. If I cancel, I will not get any of my deposits back and my fiancé doesn’t want to postpone to anything past spring time. How do we know when this will all be over? I don’t want to keep money into it if I know I won’t get it back. Thoughts??

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Latest activity by Lauren, on June 22, 2020 at 3:17 AM
  • mrswinteriscoming
    VIP December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    I am in Australia and here our wedding venue has said that weddings from October onward are going ahead as planned at present. I don’t know exactly how things are right now in Georgia so it’s a little difficult to comment, but I would suggest you speak to your venue and also check with the relevant authorities to gauge what the likelihood is of your wedding going ahead at this point in time.


    In the worst case scenario, I would start thinking about postponing your wedding. Your fiancée doesn’t want to postpone the wedding that far but to be honest, would you rather lose all your money or change the date? You also will need to consider here that many other brides have had to postpone their weddings so if postponement is the way you have to go, your available dates will be limited.
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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    Well, I'm in Texas and our venue just told us that they're having weddings starting this weekend and so will not be postponing on their end. 🤷‍♀️ It helped us to realize that the venue will not be letting us move our date - we're now prepping for August in earnest. People may or may not come, but we don't want to lose out on a good chunk of cash.
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  • Ashley
    Devoted October 2020
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    Hello! I am in Georgia as well. Our wedding was originally scheduled for 4/4 but has been postponed until 10/24. Are your guests having to travel? What percentage of your guest have told you they can't make it? We are going ahead as planned. My family all lives in Ga. so, no one has cancelled.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    (Australia had a vastly different experience with the pandemic than the US, please do not use them as a guide.)

    It's very hard to say, honestly. I suppose it depends on the part of GA you are in. I was just looking at the data a day or two ago, and there several worrying spots on the map, not to mention in your neighboring states. The national curve looks like it's going down because NY/NJ are going down, but we're populous enough to have that effect. A lot of places have still not hit their peak.

    That said, October is still 4 months away, and we honestly don't know what's going to happen. Here in NY/NJ, masks will likely be required, and smaller gatherings will likely be the only ones allowed through at least the end of the year.

    If you are feeling at *all* uncomfortable, it's best to look at postponing, or at least downsizing. This is awful, and I'm sorry.

    The best advice we can give is: Have a Plan B, be flexible, and don't make decisions until you *have* to.

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  • Sarah
    Beginner October 2020
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    My date is 10.17.20 and we are keeping our date. I'm not sure if anyone is choosing not to attend, no one has said anything but either way we are moving forward. My date is also my grandmother's birthday (who passed away years ago) so I'm pretty attached to the date and don't want to wait another year to get married. If people choose not to come, I 100% respect their decision but I will be there 🥰 Good luck to you, it's a tough decision!
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
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    After postponing our 3/28 date to 10/31, I'm refusing to start worrying til July. I'm in Illinois, and we just hit phase 3. Phase 4 is 50 or less. Phase 5 is when a vaccine or treatment is available.
    So... while I'm a little worried, I'm not going to freak out. I've got 5 more months of developments to go.
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  • Kelsey
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Ugh this is sooo tough and I’m so sorry you’re having to figure this all out! We’re in a similar boat but in NC... we’re keeping things as planned for now and honestly probably won’t adjust unless the venue makes us. We’ve put so much non refundable money down, I think at this point the decision is almost out of our hands.
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  • S
    Just Said Yes November 2020
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    Hey girl! I’m a jersey bride whose already had to postpone but currently live in Georgia. Where abouts are you having your wedding if you don’t mind me asking? I say this because I know someone is having their wedding in Savannah in July! the reality is you might have to reduce your guest list if you keep it in October 😔 I feel like Georgia is way ahead of the game with opening so I would see how things are come July!
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  • Natalie
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    I’d hold off a bit longer before making any big decisions. Many states have begun opening up and are loosening up restrictions. I’d wait to see how this affects the number of cases.
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  • Elizabeth
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    Im in the EXACT same boat. 10/10/2020. It seems far enough away to be able to keep planning but then again the uncertainty of everything just makes me so weary. We’ve paid for basically everything but our men’s attire and our honeymoon which is now a totally different issue. Do we keep planning on a downsized 50 or is even that too risky? I think we are gonna move forward knowing it won’t be exactly as originally planned and we’ll just have to eat it Financially if something happens and we have to cancel.
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  • Cierra
    Beginner October 2020
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    Thank you for your comment. Although postponement is sounding like the way to go, I do not want to go through the headache of doing so. We will weigh out all of our options and make a decision sooner rather than later.

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  • Cierra
    Beginner October 2020
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    Yes, it sounds like we are in the same exact situation which sucks. I just do not want to wait much longer to make a decision which is why I am considering all possibilities now. Above all, I just want to marry this man already! So if that means eating the cost, then so be it.

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  • Cierra
    Beginner October 2020
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    I am getting married in Woodstock, Ga.

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  • Elizabeth
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    Right? I figure if it’s bad enough that we have to cancel in October, than we have bigger problems to worry about. All we can do is try to stay positive and plan for the best. Good luck!! ❤️❤️
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  • Cierra
    Beginner October 2020
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    Yes, totally! So funny..we are actually in Charlotte so we are planning our wedding in ga from here.

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  • Cierra
    Beginner October 2020
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    I am a bit of a worry wart so I am trying not to freak out but it is super hard!

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  • Cierra
    Beginner October 2020
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    Thanks! Good luck to you too and congrats!

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  • Cierra
    Beginner October 2020
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    We have a good 90% of our guests travelling, most of which are elderly so I am more concerned about health and safety. It is kind of an unfair situation because I know they would want to be there. A good amount have told us they don't know whether or not they would want to travel around that time.

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  • Cierra
    Beginner October 2020
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    Understandable, I guess that is better than them not saying anything. They are keeping you guys up to date.

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  • Cierra
    Beginner October 2020
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    Ugh! I would hate to have to wear a mask to my wedding. Thank you for the advice!

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