Hi everyone,
So I was supposed to be married in August of 2020 (engaged summer 2019) due to Covid we pushed it back to June 2021 and again, had to postpone. Our wedding is being held overseas in Fiji which is where I grew up and am from, with Covid and their borders being closed we’ve had to postpone again, most likely to next May since they have high Covid cases and are saying they may not be open till 2022 and their hurricane season doesn’t end until April. We really don’t want to keep postponing but we’re facing several dilemmas; 1) they won’t give us our money back and we’ve put a little over 20k into paying for the entire thing (flights, venue, vendors, etc, whole things paid for), 2) moving it closer to home (probably Hawaii to keep it tropical for our attire) would mean im out family and friends, including an entire bridal party, they can’t afford to fly here as it costs 2-3 times the amount it is for us to go there, 3) we’d be losing a lot of the cultural aspects both my fiancé and I wanted including in the wedding 4) we obviously don’t have the money to pay for a ‘new’ wedding unless for whatever reason they give us our money back but we might push the idea that we keep having to postpone.
We’ve thought about maybe eloping somewhere nice to try and make the day still feel special and then when we can travel celebrate with our friends and family there however it would depend on finances but we also don’t know if our friends and family would think it’s worth it if we’re already married. We had a friend do something similar and their family members made a lot of comments on the wedding day saying “it’s less special since they’re already married” despite the ceremony/reception being such a beautiful event.
Just wanted to get thoughts/opinions and anything I haven’t thought of. We’re really bummed about the whole thing and feel pretty down in the dumps, really had looked forward to this and celebrating with people we don’t get to see a ton in a place that means a lot to the both of us and making it a really special day, but now we just feel really defeated. And my dress is probably very very dusty.
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