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Kate, on July 2, 2021 at 5:17 PM Posted in Planning 0 5
Hi everyone,


So I was supposed to be married in August of 2020 (engaged summer 2019) due to Covid we pushed it back to June 2021 and again, had to postpone. Our wedding is being held overseas in Fiji which is where I grew up and am from, with Covid and their borders being closed we’ve had to postpone again, most likely to next May since they have high Covid cases and are saying they may not be open till 2022 and their hurricane season doesn’t end until April. We really don’t want to keep postponing but we’re facing several dilemmas; 1) they won’t give us our money back and we’ve put a little over 20k into paying for the entire thing (flights, venue, vendors, etc, whole things paid for), 2) moving it closer to home (probably Hawaii to keep it tropical for our attire) would mean im out family and friends, including an entire bridal party, they can’t afford to fly here as it costs 2-3 times the amount it is for us to go there, 3) we’d be losing a lot of the cultural aspects both my fiancé and I wanted including in the wedding 4) we obviously don’t have the money to pay for a ‘new’ wedding unless for whatever reason they give us our money back but we might push the idea that we keep having to postpone.
We’ve thought about maybe eloping somewhere nice to try and make the day still feel special and then when we can travel celebrate with our friends and family there however it would depend on finances but we also don’t know if our friends and family would think it’s worth it if we’re already married. We had a friend do something similar and their family members made a lot of comments on the wedding day saying “it’s less special since they’re already married” despite the ceremony/reception being such a beautiful event.
Just wanted to get thoughts/opinions and anything I haven’t thought of. We’re really bummed about the whole thing and feel pretty down in the dumps, really had looked forward to this and celebrating with people we don’t get to see a ton in a place that means a lot to the both of us and making it a really special day, but now we just feel really defeated. And my dress is probably very very dusty.

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Latest activity by Kate, on July 3, 2021 at 3:47 AM
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    Have you spoken to your closest family and friends to ask if they actually would feel it’s not special if you’re already married?
    People might be a lot more understanding because this is out of your control due to covid.
    Personally, if you don’t want to postpone a year I think your best bet is to elope now and celebrate when the borders are open since you’re unable to get a refund.I’ve been following the situation in Fiji because we were planning on honeymooning there in September of this year but it doesn’t look like it will happen.Although I tried to cancel our hotel and get a refund and was told no for now because they think borders will reopen in August
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  • Caprice
    Savvy May 2021
    Caprice ·
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    Yikes, what a dilemma! I'm so sorry you're going through this. Smiley sad

    Honestly it feels like Fiji is meant to be, in one form or another. Financially, personally, culturally, etc. If you can wait it out it'll be 100% worth it to celebrate exactly how you've envisioned.

    If waiting isn't an option, maybe you could do a live stream ceremony to share the "I do" moment, then use the funds and vendors later for an official reception and party in Fiji?

    Are you planning to honeymoon in Fiji too?

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  • Leeza
    Beginner October 2021
    Leeza ·
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    I’m so sorry you’re going through this, the same thing happened to us. We were engaged in May of 2018 and planned for January 2020 but then had to push to October 2021. I’ve had my dress sitting in my closet for over a year now. We also couldn’t go back on the big wedding we planned since all the money was put in already. What we did last minute was get legally married on our original date with an officiant but only told our parents and siblings! We wore our rings for the weekend, then took them off after that to continue the “lie” lol. I bought a white suit with a veil and wore that ☺️ No one else in our family knows we’re actually married right now, we will tell everyone during the big wedding in October. This may not be the answer you’re looking for but we were just happy to finally be married and not ruin that “special” feeling when wedding day (pt 2) comes. Hope you find a conclusion that makes this special for you and your future husband, that’s what matters! ❤️
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    Kate ·
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    Love that you guys did that!
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    Kate ·
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    We were planning on having a honeymoon in Italy, but we are unsure of when we can take a honeymoon at this point, hopefully some day! Thank you for your advice, I like that you think it seems like it is meant to be there, I will try to see it that way
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