Help with the in laws!

Warning long post!


My FH and I have been together for 8 years. We’ve just recently got engaged and I’ve always had a great and close relationship with his family. His sister is in our wedding and everything went smooth until recently. When planning the venue my FH’s family wanted the wedding at a certain location and I my FH and I new where we wanted to get married. We all went and looked at the venue and I put the deposit down and we have it booked. A little while after that my FH family took him aside and offered to pay for our entire wedding if we had it at the venue they chose. My FH told them that money wasn’t an issue and that we really wanted the venue at our original location. After that their has been a little tension but nothing we couldn’t brush off. Well lately we went bridesmaid shopping and I took his mom and sister along. Everything seemed to go fine until the next day. I had stated I wanted my maid of honors (who are my 2 sisters) to have dresses with beading and everyone else in the other dresses they chose. My future sister in law began sending me dresses with beading all night saying I should have all the girls in beading. I explained that I just didn’t want that much sparkle. Then she said well what if you just did me and your two sisters. I tried explaining to her that I wanted to stick with my original plan of it just being maid of honors. After I stated that she then texted my FH saying how we need to take his family on the offer of the other venue. My FH explained that it was our wedding and we are going to do what we want. Then my future sister in law explained that I’m purposely leaving them out and am making the wedding all about me and my family. She also made some other rude comments about me and demanded my FH made changes in our relationship. My FH stood up for me and now pretty much brushed her off. I felt horrible about the whole thing because I have been trying to include his family in everything (they came to pick out the venue, to pick out my wedding dress, and my bridesmaid dress). She will still not reply to my apology for making her and her family feel bad. And is now making it a point to not speak to me. She will talk to my FH all day long like nothing happened but still ignores me. The holidays are coming up, the weddings coming up. This is causing me so much stress and I’m at a loss for what to do or how to be around them.