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Help with invitations and etiquette: Destination wedding, At-home Reception, Bridal shower

Michelle, on June 22, 2019 at 12:00 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Hi!

I'm having a smallish destination wedding in Hawaii next Feb. The majority of my extended family is not invited due to how many people there are, so we are having an at-home reception (where I grew up, not the state I currently live in) afterwards for all of them as well as family friends.

I sent Save The Dates in Jan, so people would have plenty of time to plan. My mom and godmother are hosting a Bridal Shower for me in September where they live (not the state I live in). My plan is just to invite family friends and family to it as I have no friends left there - all of my friends live in different states. So those invited would include a few people invited to the destination wedding, and all of the people invited to the at-home reception. (All of the women, anyway).

I am not sure when to invite people to the at-home reception. Do I send invitations a year ahead of time? Separate Save the Dates? Can I invite the people to the Bridal Shower, who know nothing of the wedding or at-home reception, and then invite them to the at-home reception later? (As in, the traditional 8-12 weeks before the event, but this is months after the shower).

Thanks!

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Latest activity by SummerBrideInAutumn, on June 25, 2019 at 11:45 AM

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Michelle · on June 22, 2019 at 6:53 AM
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You can invite them to the shower as long as they're invited to the at home reception. But you need to send a invitation to the reception before an invite to the bridal shower
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Allie · on June 24, 2019 at 4:51 PM
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I wouldn't send invitations to the reception a year ahead of time, but as PP said, I wouldn't send the invite to the bridal shower before the invite to the reception. When is the reception? I'm a little confused.
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on June 24, 2019 at 5:02 PM
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When is the reception? Is it immediately after the destination wedding?
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Michelle · on June 24, 2019 at 5:08 PM
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Due to work scheduling and weather, the bridal shower is 6 months before the destination wedding. The at-home reception is 4 months after the wedding.
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SummerBrideInAutumn · on June 25, 2019 at 11:45 AM
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That makes things really tricky. This is definitely a confusing situation. I guess I would just send the bridal shower invitations with regular timing (about 6 weeks beforehand) and maybe include a note that an at-home reception will occur after the destination wedding. Maybe someone else has a better idea, but this is the best I could come up with!
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