Help with invitation wording - divorced parents hosting

Following bc both of my divorced parents are remarried and helping with the wedding (as are me and FH). I think it'll just be "together with their families" or something similar?

Divorced kid problems haha

Does you mom use her maiden name?

If not, then, list them separately using their full names and an "and" in between (separate lines would be better still).

@vicki I know right lol. "Together with fams" won't fly though lol. FH family isn't contributing anything, and he's not on the best terms with them. My stepmom is also contributing too.

@nonna she uses it on Facebook lol to let people know she's not married to my dad anymore... everyone is very cordial (we even go on family vacations together) so she didn't want confusion.

The mother goes first (use whatever name she goes by, many divorcees of long term marriages do not go back to maiden name), the dad goes on the second line, no and between. That will indicate they are not married.

You should talk to your dad and see if he expects his wife's name to go on invite (it is etiquette to invite her, names on invites depends on situation). If he wants her name, you then need to double back to your mom and see if that is going to bother her. At the end of the day, you may have to concede to not accepting funds from them for wedding.

I think "together with their families" can be annoying, especially if any parents are helping pay for. Some people here say, well with stepparents, etc., invites have too much on them. To me, that sounds like, IT.IS.ALL.ABOUT.ME and the only names on it should be FH and mine.

ETA -- if your parents on good terms, and SM contributing then,

Mrs Jane Doe

Mr and Mrs. John Doe

Everyone will know what this means.

My dads parents were divorced when my mom and dad got married, and my grandfather had remarried by that point, and they listed my grandmother as Ms. Jane Doe since she was still using her married name and my grandfather and his new wife as Mr. And Mrs. John Doe.

PPs are correct. Separate lines indicate that they are no longer married. And you should definitely discuss your step-mom being on there with both parents to avoid hurt feelings and missed expectations.

SM is okay with not being on there and my parents don't care either way, they just wanted to avoid confusion and the things I saw online were contradictory. Thanks everyone! So, just to be sure, separate lines and then is my mom Mrs. or just Ms.?

Fall Bride, Mrs is perfectly acceptable for a divorcee, if she continues to use her married name.

http://emilypost.com/advice/the-mrs-question/

@fallbride thanks! My SM is not contributing financially... at least not directly. It's sticky. My parents set up a wedding fund for me (like my college fund) when I was younger so everything is being paid out of that. SM has helped me find vendors, but nothing more than that. She put the deposit on my dress, but it was using my dad's card since he didn't go dress shopping with us.

Sigh, Fall Bride, yes Mrs. Arthur Reynolds is no longer an option. BUT as the article said BEFORE you go to that

"Today it is acceptable for both married and divorced women to be referred to by their first names after the title Mrs., as in “Mrs. Susan Reynolds.”"

Do you dislike divorced women, or just choose to ignore parts of that?