Help with Father Daughter/Mother Son dance?

You should most definitely still have your father/daughter dance. I think it would be great for him to dance with your Aunt. I don't see anything wrong with that. At my friends wedding she danced with her brothers (her father passed away a few years ago) and her husband danced with his Mom. Nothing wrong with that.

I think it would be very sweet for him to dance with his special aunt. You could combine the dances if you wanted to, or you could do it the traditional way. I don't forsee anyone being offended by this, and if they are--who cares its you and your FH's day!! =)

It's really up to you. My FH doesn't want to do the mother/son dance, so we are just leaving it out. You could go that route or have him dance with the special aunt if he wants to. It's your wedding, do what feels right to the two of you

I think it is what you & your FH decide to do it combined or alone...either way, no1 should be offended. i think people may miss his mom but be touched that your aunt has stepped up to dance with your FH. As for songs, get an idea from your dad & aunt this way it really will be personal...

Thanks guys. I guess since our wedding is his parents 40th wedding anniversary, I really dont want to hurt anyones feelings, or make the day harder then it needs to be.

You may combine the dances and some song suggestions may include:

The Way You Look Tonight - Frank Sinatra

You've Got A Friend - James Taylor

Let It Be - Beatles

You should choose a song that is generally neutral in lyrics (not specifying mother or relationship with a monther)

I've done many weddings with a bride/groom having a deceased parent. In most cases, the deceased parent is always honored at the reception. One way is to have a memorial at each table (usually a candle and/or prayer written on a small card). Other brides/grooms provide a speech prior to the parent dances, which alleviate offending or hurting feelings of others.

Hopefully this answers your question!

Chris Andres

Thanks, that helps. We are having a memorial "tree", I'm making ornaments to hang in memory of our deceased parents/grandparents. I thought it would be a way to include them, even though they cant be there in person!

My father recently passed away, and I do not want to dance with anyone else for the father/daughter dance. My fiance is getting rid of the mother/son dance also...we are just not doing it at all because of the circumstance.

I understand that. I'm sorry for your loss. I thought about it too, but my FH told me I coulsnt give up my dance, because my dad was looking forward to it. I think that's why he offered to dance with my aunt. He's been very understaning.

I have seen weddings where there is only one dance (father/daughter or mother/son) if one of the parents is unable to be there. The song can be a favorite of that parent, or a song that reminds you of them. Or even a combination of the two. Your DJ should be able to mix the songs, as long as they aren't hugely different in style/tempo.

I have also seen memorial dances where a small portion of a favorite song is played followed by the traditional dances with a treasured person. This might honor the 40th wedding anniversary while still keeping to the "traditions." Possibly play a portion of their first dance song and then transition to the song(s) that you want to dance to.

From personal experience, my father died many years before my wedding. I didn't have a father/daughter dance. My husband danced with his mom to her favorite song and then he danced with his "second" mom. A woman that had helped raise him and had been a family friend since before he was born.

Brandy

Oh, I just posted this on another thread! My FH has chosen "What a Wonderful World" by Iz as his mother/son dance song, but I think it would work for both. If you're worried about the family being sad, your FH could invite all of the mothers and sons to come up and dance with you! I think it would make for a very touching moment and his mother would probably have appreciated the sweet gesture. Just a suggestion.