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Help with decisions for minimony vs big wedding date!

Aubrey, on September 30, 2020 at 1:28 PM Posted in Planning 0 5
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Hi guys! we pushed our big wedding out from September 2020 to April 2021 but we need to be legally married now for insurance so we are doing a minimony on 10/24 with just our parents and wedding party and not tell anyone else. I’ve been so torn because we were already supposed to have had our big day, so it’s hard for me to not go all out with this little ceremony.
Should we do our vows that we wrote for eachother in October or wait until April so they’re still special and do generic for October? They’re so dear to my heart that I want them to be special still at our big day in April, but also 10/24 we are ACTUALLY getting married so wouldn’t we want to say our vows?
Also, which date should we actually be celebrating as our anniversary? Is there anything that we should include on this day or just save for the big wedding?Obviously these aren’t normal times so anyone that’s been through it please tell me what you did!

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Latest activity by Adrienne, on September 30, 2020 at 2:36 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Should we do our vows that we wrote for eachother in October or wait until April so they’re still special and do generic for October?

    This is obviously a very personal decision, but I would prefer to share personal vows on the day I actually got married. Your party will be great, but this is the day you're marrying the love of your life. All the extras will make the big event special, let the vows make your wedding day special.

    Also, which date should we actually be celebrating as our anniversary? Is there anything that we should include on this day or just save for the big wedding?

    Again, I would celebrate the anniversary of my wedding day, not the anniversary of the day I threw a party. I'm not sure what you mean about including things or saving them for your vow renewal.

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  • Kevin
    Super October 2021
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    So we are in the same boat we are doing a mini ceremony with our parents grandparents and wedding party and doing a virtual zoom live stream to some other close family that live out of state like my sister. We are doing our personal vows that we wrote because that’s when we are actually getting married. We will be repeating the same vows for next year when we have the big wedding. We will also be celebrating our small date as our wedding date because that’s the day we got married and will be on our certificate and that we said our vows. Next year will be more of a vow renewal with a big reception. But we are saving our first dance and father daughter dance for next year to still have that be special
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    For our minimony next week my fiancé and I decided to recite the traditional vows and save our personal vows for the big wedding. We will however tell each other some privately that morning.


    I saved my big dress for our big wedding (March 2021) and am wearing a simple white dress for our minimony. We’re saving the bridal party for our big wedding as well. We will still have our first dance at both, but he will also see me before the minimony but not the big wedding.
    We’re using the date we actually legally get married as our anniversary date. Our minimony and big wedding will be completely different (different colors, different food, etc)
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    Super September 2020
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    Personally, I would do your special vows when you get married...that is the purpose of marriage vows, for you and him to exchange special words. I also did not care if anyone or everyone heard our vows beside the two of us 💕 At the end of the day, do what you want to do!! Best wishes.
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    Devoted October 2021
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    I think that just because it is a minimony, doesn't mean it is not special. Do everything you would have done for your big wedding, on a smaller scale. Do your vows when you actually get married, and heck, say them again when there are more people to watch too. The day you get married, while not the day you envisioned because of postponements and things, is still a special day, it will be your anniversary, and I think you should do all the things that would make that anniversary special, like vows, wearing your dress, cutting a cake, doing a first dance. These are all things I'm doing for my minimony, and I'll do them again for the big celebration next year. But do what works best for you Smiley smile

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