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Just Said Yes May 2012

help with ceremony program wording for family not in attendance

Mary, on May 12, 2012 at 2:31 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Hey all. I am trying to get my ceremony program wording together and am having some difficulty with the wording. My mother and grandmother are living but are not going to be able to attend our wedding due to advanced alzheimer's disease and my FH's parents are also not going to be able to attend the wedding either also due to terminal illnesses. I had planned on placing some flowers or something up front and mentioning that they are symbolic of those not in attendance and wanted to include a note about it in the ceremony program but am not sure how to word it. I wasn't sure it was appropriate to call it remembrance since they are still living and I didn't want the wording to confuse people. Also, should I include their names under the wedding party or just list the people that are actually in attendance? Anyone been in a similar situation or have some advice? Thanks for the help it is greatly appreciated!

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Latest activity by Heather White, on May 17, 2012 at 10:34 AM

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Megan · on May 12, 2012 at 4:48 PM
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Well i have lost my mother and i done an in memory but if i was in this prodicument i would say"people who cant attend today" or "absent family members".i think in would go with absent.family members that way they wont get it confused
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Master July 2012
The Polka Dot Queen © · on May 12, 2012 at 4:52 PM
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Our original Best Man won't be able to attend, as he is deployed, nor will my grandmother who I am extremely close to. We're just planning on putting two pictures up at the front of the church of them, but not writing anything in the program, I don't think.
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Hayley C™ · on May 12, 2012 at 8:04 PM
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I would list the parents like normal at the top of the program with the wedding party names. If someone is deceased, write "the late"

Parents of the Bride
Mary and John Doe

Parents of the Groom
Sue and Mike Johnson

Grandparents of the Bride
Martha Kent and the late Chris Kent

The flowers on the alter are in honor of those that are ill and could not attend today: brides mother, grandmother, FH mother and FH father.

The (single yellow rose) in Brides's bouquet is in loving memory of her cherished (grandmother), Full Name of person. (?another idea?)

We would also like to remember those who are no longer with us but still watching over us:
NAME OF DECEASED
(relation to the Bride)

NAME OF DECEASED
(relation to the Bride)

NAMES OF DECEASED
(relation to the Groom)
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Just Said Yes May 2012
Mary · on May 12, 2012 at 9:28 PM
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Thank you all for the wonderful suggestions it has been so helpful!
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Heather White · on May 17, 2012 at 10:34 AM
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Hayley gave you some great suggestions... Many couples put thank yous on the back of the program... along the lines of thank you to _____, _____, and _____ who were unable celebrate with us today but who have helped make us who we are today.... whose love and support has.....

It is a special day, and you want to remember but don't forget to celebrate!
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